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I have this listbox to pull the information and filter it.
However, I put information from 3 columns starting with column B, and defined that it would pull through the offset the information of a column before and a column after.
It's working... but I'd like to filter the information from column F and that the information from column A and column H also appear in the listbox.
So what I'm looking for is for my listbox to appear as follows:
Code (Column A) City with filter option (Column F) Country (Column H)
I really appreciate anyone who can help me :D

Option Explicit Dim wPlan As Worksheet Private Sub cmdfechar_click() Unload Me End Sub Private Sub listaClientes_Dblclick(ByVal Cancel As MSForms.ReturnBoolean) On Error Resume Next Dim n As Long Dim ncliente As String n = Format(Me.listaClientes.List(listaClientes.ListIndex, 0), "0") ncliente = Me.listaClientes.List(listaClientes.ListIndex, 1) Cadastroclientes.txtcodigo.Value = n Unload Me End Sub Private Sub UserForm_Activate() Call CriaCabecalhoLb(Me.listaClientes, Me.lbCab, Array("Cód.", "Cliente", "Celular")) End Sub Private Sub UserForm_Initialize() Dim rg As Range Dim linf As Integer Dim Cor01 As Variant Dim Cor02 As Variant Dim Cor03 As Variant Dim vLin As Integer Cor01 = RGB(35, 207, 222) 'RGB(253, 6, 100) Cor02 = RGB(43, 46, 51) 'RGB(231, 232, 237) Set wPlan = Planilha1 Set wPlan = Application.Worksheets("Teste1") vLin = Application.WorksheetFunction.CountA(wPlan.Range("B:B")) Set rg = wPlan.Range("B2:B" & vLin) listaClientes.ForeColor = Cor01 txtCliente.ForeColor = Cor01 listaClientes.BackColor = Cor02 For linf = 1 To rg.Rows.Count With Me.listaClientes .ColumnWidths = "60;190;100" .ColumnCount = 3 .AddItem Format(rg.Cells(linf, 0), "00000") .List(listaClientes.ListCount - 1, 1) = rg.Cells(linf, 1) .List(listaClientes.ListCount - 1, 2) = rg.Cells(linf, 2) End With Next Me.Contalbl.Caption = Me.listaClientes.ListCount & " clientes" End Sub Private Sub txtCliente_Change() Dim lstCli As Range Dim vProc As Range Dim vCod As Range Dim vCel As Range Dim vInic As Range Dim vLin As Integer Dim vteste As Range Dim vtest As Range On Error Resume Next Me.listaClientes.Clear If Len(Me.txtCliente) = 0 Then Call UserForm_Initialize lblPesq.Visible = True Else vLin = Application.WorksheetFunction.CountA(wPlan.Range("S:S")) Set lstCli = wPlan.Range("B2:B" & vLin) Set vProc = lstCli.Find(Me.txtCliente, , , xlPart) Set vCod = vProc.Offset(0, -1) 'valores do codigo, mudar a coluna para esquerda (0 = coluna S, 1 = coluna S - 1) Set vCel = vProc.Offset(0, 1) 'valores do celular, mudar a coluna para direita (0 = coluna S, 1 = coluna S + 1) lblPesq.Visible = False If Not vProc Is Nothing Then Set vInic = vProc Do With Me.listaClientes .ColumnWidths = "60;190;100" .ColumnCount = 3 .AddItem Format(vCod, "00000") .List(listaClientes.ListCount - 1, 1) = vProc .List(listaClientes.ListCount - 1, 2) = vCel End With Set vProc = lstCli.FindNext(vProc) Set vCod = vProc.Offset(0, -1) Set vCel = vProc.Offset(0, 1) Loop Until vProc.Address = vInic.Address End If Me.Contalbl.Caption = Me.listaClientes.ListCount & " clientes" End If End Sub Public Sub CriaCabecalhoLb(LbPrincipal As MSForms.ListBox, LbCabecalho As MSForms.ListBox, cabecalho As Variant) With LbCabecalho ' cabecalho do userform 'Iguala o numeros de colunas do ListBox Cabeçalho ao do ListBox Principal .ColumnCount = LbPrincipal.ColumnCount .ColumnWidths = LbPrincipal.ColumnWidths 'Adiciona os elementos dos cabeçalhos .Clear .AddItem Dim i As Integer For i = 0 To UBound(cabecalho) .List(0, i) = cabecalho(i) Next i 'Formata o visual .ZOrder (0) .Font.Size = 9 .Font.Bold = True .SpecialEffect = fmSpecialEffectFlat .BackColor = RGB(35, 207, 222) 'RGB(229, 13, 90) .Height = 13 'Alinha a posição e dimensões do ListBox Cabeçalho ao ListBox Principal .Width = LbPrincipal.Width .Left = LbPrincipal.Left .Top = LbPrincipal.Top - (.Height - 1) End With LbPrincipal.ZOrder (1) End Sub 

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Long story short my ex broke up with me because she fell out of love with me after emotionally cheating on me with her HS crush for months. Didn’t know until a week before the breakup and then she fully broke up with me. I fought for the relationship hard before she broke up with me but she didn’t want anything to do with me. Our year long relationship started off as a rebound from her last ex only a week after they broke up. He had contacted her many times after the breakup when we were together and she was visibly mad and upset every time he did. Therefore when she broke up with me she wanted to stay friends because I was “truly different” but I couldn’t for myself since I still loved her so I told her I had to go NC out of respect for her and myself and I had to un add her and her friends on social media not because I hate her and them but because I still and will always love her and I wish her the best on everything but I just can’t see it. She completely understood and it was a very amicable breakup even though I didn’t want it I respected her decision. Few days later I hear she’s continuing talking with the person she emotionally cheated on me with which hurt but showed me she’s not mine anymore and she’s moved on so I must try and move on as well.
My friends pushed me to go out (not drinking) to the club and dance and just forget about her which helped but she was still a prevalent thought in my head. She found out I went out after my friend posted a story of me at the club and she went ballistic on him to remove her from his story and she doesn’t want to see shit like that. I felt horrible after this but I figured I shouldn’t because she hurt me and moved on quickly so there’s no reason to feel bad since she’s my EX.
We live on the same small campus and I only saw her once since the breakup 2 months ago but it was from a medium distance so no words could be exchanged even if we wanted to. The past two weeks I’ve really started my moving on. I was able to drink with friends fine without feeling sad and I posted a pic on my story with my friends (one being a girl) and she saw it and unadded my snap back which was understandable. The next week I went on vacation to a different country with my friends and posted pics on IG about it and she definitely saw them and her friends saw them. I returned from my trip and now everyday I see her friends which was weird bc the whole two months I didn’t see anyone but now I see all of them. It didn’t really affect me until today, I was walking to work and a group of her friends walk by me I know who they are but I never formally met them so I just walk past. They scream my name I turn around and they are all waving at me so I turn around wave and carry on. This felt so weird since them saying hello was definitely out of spite but why do I deserve that? Is my ex really that mad that I’m moving on with my life and doing things I’ve always wanted to do? She moved on first and very fast but you don’t see me ridiculing her. I will always wish her the best no matter what and I never have or will say anything bad about her because she was truly a good person when we were dating. It just truly boggles my mind that she’s probably going around painting me as a terrible person when she was the one who wanted to breakup, who moved on so fast, who emotionally cheated, who lied, who hid her feelings from me. Just how I let her live her life without bothering her or contacting her even though I really wanted to I wish I didn’t have to hear stuff like that I just want to be left alone from that situation because I’m not fully healed. I’m trying to move on I’m not fully moved on yet and hearing that certainly doesn’t help.

Long story short my ex broke up with me because she fell out of love with me after emotionally cheating on me with her HS crush for months. Didn’t know until a week before the breakup and then she fully broke up with me. I fought for the relationship hard before she broke up with me but she didn’t want anything to do with me. Our year long relationship started off as a rebound from her last ex only a week after they broke up. He had contacted her many times after the breakup when we were together and she was visibly mad and upset every time he did. Therefore when she broke up with me she wanted to stay friends because I was “truly different” but I couldn’t for myself since I still loved her so I told her I had to go NC out of respect for her and myself and I had to un add her and her friends on social media not because I hate her and them but because I still and will always love her and I wish her the best on everything but I just can’t see it. She completely understood and it was a very amicable breakup even though I didn’t want it I respected her decision. Few days later I hear she’s continuing talking with the person she emotionally cheated on me with which hurt but showed me she’s not mine anymore and she’s moved on so I must try and move on as well.
My friends pushed me to go out (not drinking) to the club and dance and just forget about her which helped but she was still a prevalent thought in my head. She found out I went out after my friend posted a story of me at the club and she went ballistic on him to remove her from his story and she doesn’t want to see shit like that. I felt horrible after this but I figured I shouldn’t because she hurt me and moved on quickly so there’s no reason to feel bad since she’s my EX.
We live on the same small campus and I only saw her once since the breakup 2 months ago but it was from a medium distance so no words could be exchanged even if we wanted to. The past two weeks I’ve really started my moving on. I was able to drink with friends fine without feeling sad and I posted a pic on my story with my friends (one being a girl) and she saw it and unadded my snap back which was understandable. The next week I went on vacation to a different country with my friends and posted pics on IG about it and she definitely saw them and her friends saw them. I returned from my trip and now everyday I see her friends which was weird bc the whole two months I didn’t see anyone but now I see all of them. It didn’t really affect me until today, I was walking to work and a group of her friends walk by me I know who they are but I never formally met them so I just walk past. They scream my name I turn around and they are all waving at me so I turn around wave and carry on. This felt so weird since them saying hello was definitely out of spite but why do I deserve that? Is my ex really that mad that I’m moving on with my life and doing things I’ve always wanted to do? She moved on first and very fast but you don’t see me ridiculing her. I will always wish her the best no matter what and I never have or will say anything bad about her because she was truly a good person when we were dating. It just truly boggles my mind that she’s probably going around painting me as a terrible person when she was the one who wanted to breakup, who moved on so fast, who emotionally cheated, who lied, who hid her feelings from me. Just how I let her live her life without bothering her or contacting her even though I really wanted to I wish I didn’t have to hear stuff like that I just want to be left alone from that situation because I’m not fully healed. I’m trying to move on I’m not fully moved on yet and hearing that certainly doesn’t help.

Hello guys so i won't be giving any names since m partner also used reddit.Me (18F) and him(21M) have been dating for 5 months as of today. 2 weeks ago i was staying over his place and i was lying next to him while he was asleep. I was scrolling on ig with his phone(mind you its not to look through or anything, using eachothers phone without reading texts and stuff is normally pretty normal in our relationship) I stumbled across the dm with his best friend of same age (m21) he sent him some reels and he didnt read his message for like 5 hours (again pretty normal for him) so i thought i would just heart the 2 reels he sent and continue strolling but i mistapped and it went to the place where it shows all the reels and photos you shared with someone. And i saw tons and tons of like Instagram models in their sexy poses some nudes from girls and all. Started to feel rlly bad at this point and curiousity got the better of me so i started looking scrolling up in the dm to see like what exactly my bf responded when his friend sent him these.
TL;DR (İ caught something like this like 2 months before and he apologised and said he already told his friend not to numerous of times and i was okay with that) (by caught i mean HE (my bf) was showing their dm with the same friend of his for a meme he sent or something in a different app) and when i found the text he responded to these i couldnt believe what i saw and immediately started to shake realllly bad. He said something like "oh my god look at these girls out there why am i even in a serious relationship" my heart dropped guys. I met this guys family. He told me he would marry me one day and also took my v card. İ never felt so insecure and betrayed in my life. Typing this my hands are still shakey. I put the phone down and started packing my bag and dressing to leave his place quietly. I think i was shaking so bad i made some noise while getting my jacket on and he woke up. Asked me where i was going and we had 2 hours to go out (we made plans to go out that day) I told him "you arent the person i thought you were" and started to cry after that. He jumped out and bugged me to tell what happened so i. Just said look at your phone screen. He did and just went ugh and hugged me. I was still shaking really bad and wanted to break up at that moment but i was just mute, couldnt get any words out and started sobbing.
He told me he didnt mean that and it was just something between him and his friend and thats just the way they communicate and why did i even peek in their chat in the first place. I get that that wasnt my place and i could get one "im sorry" for that but i was just hurting inside. He didnt let me leave and just took off my bag and jacket. he didnt say sorry once. Just that i wasnt meant to see that. Till this day he still hasnt. He told me i couldnt understand their communication from an outsider view. İ just wanted to lay down and i layed down and cried in his arms non stop for like 1.5 hour When i was calm enough to ask i asked him abt the experience before and how he told me not to worry, he's not like that and he would tell his friend to stop sending him things like that(i didnt even want him to do that or ask at that time) (mind you this is his childhood friend that he knew since age 4, has a serious relationship with a girl thats very close with both of them and cheated on her before)
then he got off from his bed and went to do stuff in his pc after he said that yeahh we got kind of got loose abt that and thats what their communication was like and it was their business. I thought this man didnt have eyes wandering outside and was the sturdy logical and trustworthy type. I didn't tell him this but i feel like i cant compeletely trust him again. He hasnt done anything like an apology or something else. İ think he knows exactly how much this wounded me and i feel really disrespected. While also i get that what i did was snooping and i am truly mad at myself and said sorry. This thing came up again a few days ago with another disagreement irrelevant with this one and he gave an explanation like: even though there are really pretty girls out i'm with you and this should tell you something" i was like "wtf?" On the inside. Why is this man acting like he's doing me a favor by being with me. I know that i am fairly attractive with my looks even though that has nothing to do with that. İ believed i was being a really good partner for him up to this point. We got along pretty well, had the same values, i always try to understand his perspective in anything, open to most things and all.
I told him when we were friends that the one thing i cant ever ever forgive or get over is being betrayed like this, he knew and he still did shit like this. I've never been overly jelous, controlling or anything. We both have our friends from both genders that we're close with, İ dont even check his following, i dont care and i saw like 1 ig model every 30 posts or so in his fyp so i dont understand. He always makes jokes about cheating like he does with anything else. Im confused on what i should think and feel. Can you give me some advice?

I met her on a night out towards the start of Feb and we hit it off straight away. We met up for a few dates: first being a normal meet up, food, chat etc, second I ended up going to her place and we cuddled/chilled the whole day and then grabbed food after. Third we decided to get a hotel for the night and ended up doing the deed.
Every time we met up, we got along super well, same mentality and similar interests. It felt like things had moved quick (over 6ish weeks) but it was natural and we clearly both liked each other. We ended up booking another hotel for 2 weeks after the third date, allowing us to stay overnight and then spend the next day with eachother.
The day after we stayed at the hotel, I headed home whereas she went to work and we were texting as normal throughout the day. She had been in her new job for a few weeks and was told about something she had to do that she wasn't comfortable with. This task is expected of her as part of the job description but given how new she was to the role, it caught her off guard. After she found out, she went incredibly quiet and borderline despondent over text.
Over the course of the next few days, things didn't really change and I started to feel anxious that it was more than she was letting on. After asking her what was up, her response was that when she's stressed or anxious, she withdraws and has to ride it out. I said to her that in that case, I will leave her be until she feels ready to talk and that I'm here to support if she needs me. At this stage, we were around a week away from staying at the next hotel and she messaged me saying she still wanted to meet up to which I agreed would be fine.
A couple more days go by and she messages me asking how my week went and general chat. Things felt like they were normal and she addressed the quiet period by saying she has issues managing her anxiety and is going to head to the doctors to get it sorted. I asked if she was still looking forward to the hotel and she said she was. The following day comes and I get a long message asking to cancel the hotel as she has a late meeting that might overrun but still wanted to meet the next day. This was said to me on a Saturday, in which she would have known this was the case on Friday so I started to feel sceptical that it was the genuine reason.
I wanted to be honest with her, so I told her that my guard was now up and that I want things to progress but don't feel like it's reciprocated. She responded saying that she doesn't know whether she can give me what she wants which, sadly, was the answer I expected. I said if that's the case then I don't think it's best to meet up and she said she understood. I then left it and haven't spoken to her since, and it's constantly running through my mind as to whether I made the right call.
Any advice on whether to contact her or do I just leave it?
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TL;DR - Met a girl, things went super well at the start and then she started to suffer from work stress and has been despondent since. I called it off as she didn't know whether she wanted to go further but don't know if I made the right call.

I’m at a loss. Is this common in relationships? We hit it off really well at the start and dated for about 5 months. Everything was seemingly perfect. She came across as smart, considerate, sweet. She’s a babysitter to these two sweet kids that I met along the process and grew to love as I would come over the house and cook and play games with them. During that time this woman introduced me to her entire family, best friends, we spent holidays together. She says I was the first to have ever been introduced to her family.
She is from Kenya as well, so I understand that meeting family is a big deal. Everything was going seemingly well, with her texting “I love you” every single day, writing me letters, flowers, with her even mentioning marriage & kids first. I always made sure to return her energy - followed her lead every step of the way. Was so emotionally (and even financially) invested. Even got an apartment in her city to be closer.
She is a full time student with 2 years left of studies, and I was also busy traveling a lot. I did notice she was busy at points and always told her I completely understood. I noticed she seemed more tired and not as present, and she sensed I knew something felt off. But I told her I understood she was probably overwhelmed and didn’t need to worry. Then the very next day she calls me saying she “doesn’t think she’s capable of loving me the same” and that “she can’t give me the love that I deserve”.
Then proceeds to say “I really liked you but I don’t think I was ever in love with you. I know it’s fucked up and it’s nothing you did or could’ve done. I’m extremely confused myself and honestly will need some deep soul searching.”
I was at a loss, and asked if she was sure about this and if I would need to move on, but she was crying and bawling her eyes out so much saying she “had no idea” and “couldn’t give me an answer right now”
Obviously I questioned her on everything and asked if the dates and moments we experienced were ever real to her. She then says “the moments were great but we experienced them on different levels.”
How am I supposed to interpret this?
I felt stuck waiting to hear her answer and tried to allow her space to “reflect” but wasn’t sure on how to proceed. I kept thinking “Should I wait to hear this answer or leave? Do women do this often? Why go so far to deceive me if she truly never meant it? Unless it’s just a phase that I’m unaware of…
Things did heat up fast I would say. But I felt pushed further because she would suddenly say things like “I see you being the father of my children” and then also writing these really romantic letters saying how much she loved me and how special of a love that I gave, etc. She would sometimes send videos of people growing old together saying that this was us.
Although, I do think immaturity is a big part of it actually, that makes sense. I returned her energy because although it was a lot, I felt I had really strong feelings for her and realized how much I wanted to be with her - so even if it was soon, I wasn’t opposed to the ideas at all.
As for how I was financially invested, was because we were kind of long distance in a way and I had to pay to travel to see her. I was pushed to get the apartment because her best friend was having suicidal thoughts and she said she really needed me there more than ever. She pushed me to make that move and really directed me to doing so about 3 months into our relationship.
As of yesterday she decided to block me on everything. It was strange because we decided to kind of leave space but I couldn’t sense how she was feeling throughout it (no texts or communication). We had planned a trip together while we were dating that was still upcoming and she had a final come up and wasn’t able to make it. I decided to still go on my own even though it was originally supposed to be for us together.
I didn’t know whether to continue to leave her space so when I came to town and didn’t tell her, there was this anger from her in me not telling her, which was strange because she insisted on leaving space. I just started noticing that her requests and expectations would sometimes be vague or very confusing.
She told all of her friends (that I met through her) about the breakup and the friends all called me directly to check on how I was holding up - but later she got mad at this saying I crossed the boundary by getting her friends involved - when she was the one that told them we broke up.
Her final message was that I couldn’t respect her boundaries with her friends, and her space, and that she “never looked at me the same ever since I accused her of deceiving me or using me for my emotional and financial investment” and she didn’t even allow me an opportunity to talk in my own defense. Which to me was strange out of all the times I listened to her side of things after she basically said to me she never loved me.
So now she’s completely cut contact and I’m totally at a loss. I’m pretty much guessing her friends might be also thinking this is weird behavior. I’m not sure what to make of this… what am I supposed to do now?
TL;DR Me (23M) and my girlfriend (22F) had a seemingly amazing relationship and then she suddenly pulled away crying and confused. Then the tears slowly turned to feeling sad for hurting me to somehow resentment (me being the bad guy) and she had a complete sudden change of heart.

Time sure flies, doesn't it? We are about to ring in a brand new year, and as we do so, the release of Grand Theft Auto V is now more than six years old (and is fast approaching five years on PC). Given the time that has elapsed, it is certainly possible (maybe even plausible) that Rockstar Games is deep in development on Grand Theft Auto VI. To that end, a supposed QA tester claims to have the skinny on the next installment.
We should preface this information with a disclaimer. There is no way of knowing if the supposed QA tester is what the person claims to be, or if any of the leaked details are accurate. All we know is that it's been a long time since the last Grand Theft Auto gaming (though Grand Theft Auto Online has been receiving continued updates and support).
What is interesting about the situation, though, is the anonymous source first posted the leak on Reddit, and it was removed by the moderators. It's not clear if perhaps Rockstar Games pressured the mods to take down the content. All that said, let's jump into it.
The folks at Dexerto managed to preserve the post. According to the original poster, the map in GTA VI is "huge" and covers to major cities, those being Carcer City and Vice City. Carcer City is based on Boston, and Vice City is based on Miami.
According to the leaker, GTA V is a "schoolyard playground" compared to the massive map in GTA VI. The leakers says Rockstar Games improved the weather effects and polished things up, borrowing from its experience on Red Dead Redemption 2.
"The map is huge, like stupendously huge, hence the game's emphasis on air travel. It makes GTA 5 look like a schoolyard playground. There is an array of atmospheric effects that bring out the life in everything. Light pollution, hurricane winds, morning fog, etc. I've never seen an open world game this realistic before," the leaker wrote.
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Assuming all that is accurate, it would be a good opportunity to inject real-time ray tracing into the mix, though there is no mention of that. Instead, the focus is on the size of the map. The leaker says it's so big that it's "a little awkward traveling from Boston to Miami," in part because there are no other major cities in between them, in the game. Expect a lot of air travel, if that's the case.
The leaker also says GTA VI will again put players in control of multiple characters, just like in GTA V. One of the protagonists is said to be "an undercover cop or something," and other might possibly be a sibling. In addition, the leaker says Rockstar Games "complete revamped" the mission design.
"You can permanently abandon some missions or take different routes that sprout different consequences," the leaker says.
For more supposed details, you can check out this screen capture on Imgur, uploaded by another Reddit user (Colonize-Mars).

I'm a 22 years old woman dating a 25 years old man for 2 months. We met through a dating app and moved to Insta, we started talking every night for long hours and we had a great connection.
Our relationship started getting more serious and he started messaging me earlier and good morning texts. He was very kind and sweet but I noticed that he doesn't ask a lot of questions about me and sometimes gives dry replies, I asked him about this and he told me he's afraid of hurting me with his words. He's introverted and shy so I accepted him the way he is.
Our conversations were still great and he was lovely. We went on 7/8 dates and he's very affectionate when we spend time together, we had the exclusivity talk and he told me he would like to marry me in the future even if we're from different religions (I'm Christian and he's Muslim). He's very close to his mother and he told her he was dating someone and she said "If you love her, it's fine. Just don't hurt her or yourself."
Besides of that, a lot of things are bothering me in this relationship like the fact that he's still on dating apps but he says he's only mine, I don't know if he's still active but it's weird that he didn't delete it or asked me to delete mine, when we were talking he used to follow a lot of local girls on IG and be active on those apps but these days he stopped but we're barely talking, he leaves me on read without saying Good Night and takes 2/3h to reply when I know he's free.
Our conversations just don't feel the same and I don't see him making any effort to make me happy anymore. He just says that he loves me by text sometimes and that's it. I miss him a lot but he doesn't seem to feel the way I do. He never says "I love you" face to face but he wanted me to say it. He told me many times we would meet daily but then he pretends that he forgot and we just meet once or twice a week. Also he's always late to see me.
Is he losing interest? Is he seeing someone else? I'm so confused but I don't want to suffocate him since we're dating only for 2 months. I really need some advice.

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Gracias por invitarme y gracias por estar aquí.
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Tanya, la ex actriz porno conocida como Jersey Jaxin que se especializó en categorías "adolescente" y "apenas legal", describe cómo como actriz es tu día de trabajo
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"Chicos golpeándote en la cara. Tienes semen de muchos hombres en toda tu cara, en tus ojos. Te rasgan. Tus entrañas pueden salir de ti. Nunca termina. Eres visto como un objeto y no como un humano con un espíritu". Jersey Jaxin

Del mismo modo, la artista Regan Starr habló de cómo

"Me echaron la mierda. Me dijeron antes del video, y lo dijeron con mucho orgullo, que en esta línea la mayoría de las chicas comienzan a llorar porque les duele mucho. . . No podía respirar. Me estaban golpeando y asfixiando. Estaba realmente molesto y no se detuvieron. Siguieron filmando. Puedes oírme decir: 'Apaga la maldita cámara', y siguieron adelante". Regan Starr

Estas dos mujeres no han tenido mala suerte, la violencia y la degradación es el punto de la pornografía, y la pornografía le sucede a mujeres y niñas reales.
Alexa Milano detalló cómo en 'Mi primera película fui tratada muy ruda por 3 tipos. ¡Me golpearon, me amordazaron con sus penes y me arrojaron como si fuera una pelota! Estaba adolorida, dolida y apenas podía caminar. Mis entrañas ardían'.
Michelle, una actriz porno actual de 20 años, ha relatado el día en que conoció a su entonces prometido en un set porno:
Comenzó encantadoramente, pero cuando comenzaron a filmar ... El tono cambió. Sin ninguna indicación, Vidal se puso duro durante el sexo, abofeteando violentamente la cara de Michelle de lado a lado y asfixiándola.
Después, parecía sacudida, su rostro enrojecido y sus ojos llorosos. Pero ella insistió en que estaba bien. "Me veo destrozada, ¿puedes decirlo?", Riendo y secándose el ojo, se dio la vuelta y dijo sin convicción: "Hoy recibí una paliza y fue genial".
Michelle destaca una forma en que la violencia contra las mujeres y las niñas opera en la pornografía. Las mujeres son escuchadas y vistas teniendo una reacción positiva, a menudo "orgásmica", al ser abofeteadas y ahogadas, sus orificios estirados por doble penetración, a veces triple, para aquellos que no saben lo que es que son múltiples penes al mismo tiempo, y golpes de puños. Esto normaliza la idea de que las mujeres quieren ser lastimadas, que las mujeres se libran del abuso masculino.
Bueno, las erecciones no son mágicas, no convierten el dolor en chicos de placer.
La otra forma en que la violencia funciona en la pornografía es que es el punto explícito de la misma. Por lo tanto, las pantallas divididas se usan con frecuencia en 'Painal': una pantalla muestra el pene golpeando el ano de la mujer, mientras que la otra muestra sus lágrimas, agonía y gritos.
Una búsqueda rápida de 'Dolor' en Pornhub entrega en menos de un segundo '"Dios mío, ¡Ese es el agujero equivocado! It hurts!!!!" – Accidental anal with creampie – 23.4 million views', 'UNPREPARED RAW ANAL! (demasiado grueso) MILF no puede manejar el DOLOR, pero SIGUIÓ adelante – 9.4 millones de visitas', 'ONLYFANS LEAK – Latina es maltratada, abofeteada, escupida, follada hasta que llora – 3 millones de visitas'.
"Garganta profunda desordenada y descuidada, destruyó mi cara - 2 millones de visitas" - la miniatura de Pornhub que anuncia la película es una imagen de una adolescente con una corbata escolar con rímel y maquillaje untado sobre su cara por llorar, su propio vómito mezclado mientras estaba enferma repetidamente mientras la ahogaban. Entiendes la idea, no creo que necesite presionar más este punto.
Pornhub, para usar la descripción adecuada de Laila Mickelwait, es una escena del crimen.
Micklewait lanzó y gestiona la exitosa campaña TraffickingHub.
Dentro de un año de la campaña, Pornhub había eliminado el 80% del sitio por un total de 10 millones de videos porque contenía videos de abuso sexual infantil u otro contenido ilegal, perdió todo el procesamiento de pagos (MasterCard, Visa, Discover y PayPal), cambió su modelo de negocio y ahora es un paria global, enfrentando 7 demandas importantes y bajo investigación por múltiples gobiernos por abuso sexual infantil. tráfico sexual y otras actividades ilegales.
Incluso las mujeres que entran en la pornografía supuestamente libremente, aunque los antecedentes de abuso, la pobreza y una cultura de objetivación sexual complican esta elección, son obligadas a realizar actos sexuales que han dicho explícitamente que no están dispuestas a hacer. Esto es violación.
Si las mujeres no cumplen con lo que exige el productor, entonces a nadie se le paga. Esas 3 a 22 horas de degradación agotadora anterior que acaba de soportar no serán pagadas. ¿Qué elegirías?
Entonces, eso es porno y vivimos en la era del porno.
Statista compiló datos que mostraron que Pornhub tenía un número total de visitas mensuales de poco menos de 10.2 millones. Si los videos y las imágenes no tuvieron impacto en el comportamiento, ¿por qué se calcula que la industria publicitaria global en 2022 tendrá un valor de 808 mil millones de dólares estadounidenses?
En términos de tendencias globales, "La categoría Transgénero creció un +75% para convertirse en la 7ª categoría más popular en todo el mundo". A medida que la pornografía crece en consumo, podemos ver la legislación desgarrando los parlamentos y los derechos de las mujeres en todo el mundo.
Una encuesta de 2019 de 10,000 británicos mostró que el 38% de los hombres dicen que ven pornografía todos los días, mientras que el 74% de los hombres ven pornografía al menos cuatro veces a la semana. Ofcom realizó una encuesta en 2020 que sugirió que la mitad de todos los adultos del Reino Unido ven pornografía. Tenga en cuenta el "lenguaje neutral de sexo" en el que se presenta el consumo de este material violento por Ofcom. Sabemos que no son las mujeres al por mayor las que se dedican a estas cosas.
Ahora, para los hábitos pornográficos de Escocia
Pornhub, orgulloso de sus datos y cuota de mercado, ha permitido una mirada más cercana. Pornhub oscurece el hecho de que estamos hablando de hombres y consumo sexual masculino llamándolos visitantes, como los clientes se llaman clientes.
Lesbiana fue la categoría de videos más vista en Pornhub a la que accedieron los hombres en Escocia.
Los datos de Pornhub revelaron que a los habitantes de Glasgow les encanta ver pornografía en el trabajo, a los hombres de Stirling les gusta ver pornografía meada y los de Edimburgo son más propensos a ver clips interraciales.
Una nota, ver pornografía en el trabajo constituye acoso sexual si el personal femenino lo presencia. Además, para mí eso es algo tan masculino dominar su espacio. Nunca he conocido a una mujer entrar a trabajar y empezar a menear.
Los datos de Pornhub muestran que los hombres escoceses tienen un 41% más de probabilidades de ver videos fetichistas, por lo que la violencia aún más extrema contra las mujeres y las niñas (palizas que extraen sangre, metal engancha el trasero, ese tipo de cosas) y un 42% más de probabilidades de ver bondage en comparación con el resto del Reino Unido.
Patrióticamente, "las búsquedas de "Kilt" son un 892% más populares en Escocia en comparación con el resto del mundo.
Pornhub nos dice que, en promedio, los hombres de Stirling pasan 8 segundos menos que los hombres de Aberdeen viendo material en cada visita.
Los visitantes, también conocidos como hombres, del noreste de Escocia tienen un 171% más de probabilidades de buscar "chav", el noroeste tiene un 73% más de pornografía "gordita", más abajo en el país tienen un gusto 77% mayor por "mujeres grandes y hermosas".
Las estadísticas del gigante de la web en 2022 revelan que los "visitantes", esa palabra nuevamente, de Escocia, también conocidos como hombres, tienen un 55% más de probabilidades de buscar "pegging" que los de otras partes del Reino Unido.
Pegging es cuando una mujer inserta un consolador con correa en el ano de un hombre. No se trata de "femdom", a menudo se trata más de obligar a una mujer a hacer sexualmente algo que no quiere hacer.
La transviuda Filomena: "No era mi idea de la feminidad. De hecho, su versión me ofendió. Era degradante y violento. Claramente pensaba que ser mujer significaba querer ser violada y torturada. Le dije que usar correas estaba muy dolorido en mi cicatriz de cesárea. '
Philomena ha compartido cómo "me acusó de tratar de avergonzarlo cuando me amordacé por el olor de sus juguetes de silicona mezclados con vapores de nitrato de alquilo y fluidos corporales".
En marzo de 2022 se informó que un "número récord de escoceses buscaban ayuda para 'escalar' la adicción a la pornografía".
Pero Hannah Witton, hablando en la BBC, quería que los hombres supieran que es una chica genial, y no como esas feministas desagradables cuando declaró que "cree que todavía hay un camino por recorrer para eliminar el estigma de ver pornografía para todos, ya sean solteros o en una relación" y la pornografía se trataba de la introspección de la sexualidad de uno. Si no estuviera usando mis gafas, podrías ver lo duro que estoy poniendo los ojos en blanco aquí.
La pornografía está desestigmatizada, se presenta como una forma legítima de entretenimiento masculino, eso no es nuevo, la Serie 4 de Friends en 1998 tenía el episodio 'The One with the Porn', la calle principal solía vender camisetas de la marca Playboy a chicas adolescentes, Marks y Spenser almacenaban un 'Porn Star Martini' hasta que Object lo desafió, Ann Summers se asoció con Pornhub hasta que yo, señalaron los errores en su pensamiento.
La pornografía no se trata de introspección, se trata de dominación y control. Está en nuestras instituciones, está en nuestra policía, gobierno, hogares y escuelas.
Los inspectores hablaron con más de 900 niños y les dijeron que los niños están compartiendo "desnudos" entre ellos como un "juego de colección" en plataformas como WhatsApp y Snapchat, mientras que algunas niñas fueron "retocadas" regularmente en pasillos abarrotados.
Las niñas dijeron que este comportamiento era tan común que no veían el punto de denunciarlo y simplemente lo veían como una "parte de la vida".
El sitio web Everyone's Invited ha sido como el movimiento MeToo para que las colegialas documenten el acoso sexual y la violación que enfrentan a manos de sus compañeros masculinos. En 2021, "Más de 120 escuelas en toda Escocia habían sido nombradas en relación con acusaciones de agresión sexual y acoso sexual".
De hecho, se identificaron 17 escuelas primarias en Escocia, me pregunto si esto se correlaciona con la edad promedio de la primera vez que ve pornografía de 9 a 11 años. Aunque una nueva investigación realizada por la Junta Británica de Clasificación de Películas pone la primera edad de visualización en 7 años. Es accidental, es un clic, o es un amigo que te muestra, en su teléfono inteligente conectado a Internet. El 71% de las visitas a Pornhub desde Escocia son desde teléfonos inteligentes.
Los MSP han sabido sobre este problema, el acceso de los niños escoceses a material dañino, durante al menos 16 años. El Dr. Ray Wyre presentó una investigación a un comité de MSP sobre este tema en 2007 y abogó por la acción legislativa.
No creo que la acción legislativa que quería fuera que los MSP eliminaran todos los espacios seguros de las niñas, particularmente cuando son vulnerables. Para decirles a nuestras niñas que los hombres y los niños pueden definirlos.
En repetidas ocasiones vemos a agentes de policía británicos que enfrentan sanciones por compartir pornografía y chistes de violación en Whatsapp. No fue una sorpresa para las feministas que el oficial de policía, Wayne Couzens, que secuestró, violó y asesinó a Sarah Everard fuera un adicto a la pornografía.
A mediados de enero, el oficial de policía de Met, David Carrick, admitió 49 delitos, incluidos 24 cargos de violación, y utilizó un lenguaje similar para describir a las mujeres. Les dijo a colegas y víctimas cómo era un dominante y se burló de ellos. Le gustaba orinar sobre las mujeres después de haberlas violado. Carrick no es trans-identificado, bueno, todavía – muchos hombres descubren su identidad trans en prisión por delitos sexuales, ¿no?
Más de 1000 oficiales de policía y personal solo en el Met están bajo investigación por abuso.
"En una reunión celebrada en noviembre pasado por la Autoridad de Policía de Escocia se reveló que se registraron 410 denuncias sexuales entre enero de 2017 y octubre de 2021 contra agentes y personal policial".
Si los crímenes contra las mujeres, particularmente los delitos sexuales, llegan a los tribunales, ¿cuántos miembros del jurado se masturban con la idea de que todas las mujeres lo quieren, incluso cuando dicen que no, y lo quieren duro?
Los políticos y los candidatos están igualmente inundados de pornografía.
En un extremo del país, Paul Wright, SNP para disputar el barrio de Brechin y Edzell, admitió haber publicado pornografía extrema en Twitter como parte de una discusión, pornografía publicada como un arma para ganar un punto.
Representando a una circunscripción de Devon en casi el otro extremo del país, el diputado conservador Neil Parish, fue encontrado viendo pornografía en su teléfono en la cámara de los Comunes, admitió haber accedido dos veces a pornografía desde el parlamento alegando una vez que estaba buscando tractores.
Es a través de todos los partidos, es desde Escocia hasta Devon, este consumo y uso de la violencia sexual contra las mujeres.
En 2018, los datos mostraron más de 24,000 intentos de acceder a sitios pornográficos desde computadoras parlamentarias en poco menos de 4 meses. Eso no es todo Neil Parish y sus "tractores". No creo que sea posible tener tantas pestañas abiertas.
Pero, una vez más, la prensa lo presenta como si las computadoras lo estuvieran haciendo por su cuenta, que ningún hombre está sentado detrás del teclado.
Holyrood no ha sido comunicativo sobre sus datos de acceso a la pornografía.
¿Cómo pueden aprobar leyes que vean a las mujeres como iguales mientras consumen este material?
¿Es así como estas leyes de que definen a las mujeres como agujeros y carne fetiche para los hombres han pasado por los parlamentos tan rápidamente y con tanta facilidad?
De hecho, creo que la pornografía está en la raíz del transgenerismo.
En 1981 Andrea Dworkin publicó su obra Pornografía con el subtítulo "hombres que poseen mujeres". Su tesis era que la pornografía era propaganda en la guerra contra las mujeres y se basaba en el control, la dominación y el abuso de mujeres y niñas. No puedo pensar en nada más posesivo que usar la piel de una mujer, tomar sus derechos, lenguaje y definición de sí misma.
Tanya, la artista emocionada cuyas palabras abrieron esta charla, subrayó cómo "te tratan como si fuéramos solo un pedazo de carne. Que no tenemos mente y nuestro cuerpo es de todos y no tenemos alma".
Ese comentario de Tanya me parece cómo el transgenerismo define a las mujeres. Tiene sentido, estos hombres adultos no nacen en el cuerpo equivocado, son adictos a la pornografía.
En la lista de 'Five Sissy Girl Essentials', el número uno describe cómo una niña es:
'Puta, puta, perra cumguzzling'
Una mujer según los hombres trans identificados es "una puta sumisa y cachonda. Le gusta ser dominada, utilizada como recipiente para el placer y follada hasta que su culo esté abierto y mojado. Ella es sumisa'.
Si tu rabia no estaba en el punto de ebullición, bueno, continúa 'Her Hole is Well Trained for Cock' ... 'un cum receptable desvergonzado y sucio'.
Un hombre que se hace llamar puta Chloe publicó en reddit en 'escuela de chicas' sobre ser una niña porque había sido follada por un hombre y cómo "solo quería tomarlo todo como una buena chica".
Otro hombre afirmó que, desde que se había identificado como una niña, ahora estaba "emocionado y nervioso por ser una puta" y quería "probar la polla por primera vez, experimentar complacer una polla con la boca y el culo, no puedo esperar para tragar una carga de semen también".
Hay más de 34 mil miembros de esta comunidad de reddit.
En Thought Catalogue, un hombre identificado trans escribe sobre convertirse en una niña así:
"Te encanta el cum. Quieres ser una niña ... Eres una mariquita bimbocumslut'.
La conceptualización de las mujeres como sumisas para la polla es tan común ahora que incluso aparece en Wikipedia. Una guía para que los hombres sean niñas describe "la práctica de vestir a una pareja sumisa como una mujer)".
Arthur Long Chu finalmente admitió que las feministas tenían razón. Gracias, Arthur. Siempre tengo razón. Chu declaró en su trabajo 'Did Sissy Porn Make Me Trans' que

"El porno mariquita es la peor pesadilla de una feminista radical... Los [hombres fingiendo ser mujeres] en estas imágenes... se representan entonces a ... han sido feminizadas a través de ser forzadas a... se someten sexualmente a la "polla", [y] se espera que abran sus agujeros en la rendición adoradora". Arthur Long Chu

Rendir agujeros, eso es lo que es una mujer según estos pervertidos plagados de pornografía.
Piense en el término "agujero frontal" que el transgenerismo usa para describir los genitales femeninos, esto se encuentra en las guías de enseñanza escolar, orientación para profesionales de la salud. Jo's cervical cancer trust recomienda usar el término 'agujero frontal', ¿no te gusta eso? Entonces el fideicomiso dice que también puedes llamarlo un agujero de bonificación.
Las transviudas, las mujeres que tenían intimidad con estos hombres, describen la creciente adicción a la pornografía de su esposo como un componente clave en su viaje hacia la feminidad.
Los foros de Internet están inundados de hombres y niños que hablan entre sí sobre cómo la adicción a la pornografía los llevó a identificarse como trans. Un usuario dijo: "Cuando tenía 14 o 15 años y acababa de descubrir el porno, me gustaban mucho las cosas lésbicas. Era tan adicta a ella que me hacía fantasear con ser mujer%E2%80%99,%20Your%20Brain%20on%20Porn%20(Accessed%2014/01/23),)".
Las mujeres saben que las críticas al transgenerismo en plataformas como Twitter conducirán a una avalancha de perfiles de anime enojados. Aunque afirman que el anime es arte, se están entregando a él como una categoría porno, como hentai, y particularmente futunari, donde el personaje tiene curvas femeninas pero un pene gigante.
Podemos ver la pornificación en los insultos que reciben las feministas por atreverse a hablar o asistir a eventos. Con frecuencia nos dicen que nos ahoguemos con una polla, me enviaron una foto de un bate de béisbol envuelto en alambre de púas y me dijeron que debería ser violada hasta la muerte con él.
Está en libros promovidos a escolares. El libro Wonderland, comercializado para mayores de 12 años y escrito por el hombre trans identificado Juno Dawson, quien es invitado a las escuelas junto a Peter Thatchell para hablar con niños, está pornificado. Está ambientada en St Agnes, un internado para niñas donde las estudiantes son presentadas como "plagadas de ITS". Alice, el protagonista adolescente masculino trans-identificado de Dawson le dice a su audiencia infantil que "deje que usen su cuerpo y se follen ambos extremos como un cerdito", y se describe a sí mismo como "una puta puta". Puta tranny sin valor".
"Uno de los hombres que el parlamento escocés aplaudió cuando introdujo la autoidentificación disfruta del 'juego anal' con 'clientes discapacitados', especialmente si están vestidos como niños", según su perfil en adultwork.com. Un cliente en perspectiva le pidió que se vistiera y fingiera ser "una pequeña colegiala mariquita" para una sesión de sexo, él estaba feliz de complacer.
El hashtag trans "Chicas como nosotras" está lleno de hombres adultos que representan versiones pornificadas de la "niñez", que a menudo incluyen la sexualización de los uniformes escolares.
Cuando observamos el transgenerismo y las adolescentes reales, no es de extrañar que estemos viendo un gran aumento en las niñas que se identifican como niños, ¿quién no querría identificarse fuera del acoso sexual, siendo conceptualizado como un agujero sumiso? Trans para niñas es la respuesta equivocada a un problema muy real.

I'm a sophomore EE student. I want to work in a combination of the robotics/AI field and aero/astro, but I also don't want to close any doors to work somewhere else maybe in the future.
If I'm being honest I'm only pursuing engineering because I desperately want the engineer title. I hate the program, partly because of the courses which are too specific and I can learn them on my own, and mainly because I still need 3-3.5 years to graduate (5 years in my country), and that's a lot more than what I'm willing to spend since I can go into graduate school instead or into industry if I can. If I switch to physics, I'll graduate in 2 years. Now I love physics, I'm really good at it, but I won't get that engineer title. I'm also not sure if they'll allow me to work in industry or take an engineering job if I pursue physics.
Just as a side note, I have tremendous experience in CS and AI specifically, and I work on a lot of side projects (some of which are commercial and in production), and am planning to start working on physical projects in the future (as opposed to now being only software). The only reason I'm not majoring in CS is I'm pretty sure I'll neither have that engineer title, nor the knowledge I'll gain if I major in physics, and I definitely don't want to be stuck working on software.

I'm a 22 years old woman dating a 25 years old man for 2 months. We met through a dating app and moved to Insta, we started talking every night for long hours and we had a great connection.
Our relationship started getting more serious and he started messaging me earlier and good morning texts. He was very kind and sweet but I noticed that he doesn't ask a lot of questions about me and sometimes gives dry replies, I asked him about this and he told me he's afraid of hurting me with his words. He's introverted and shy so I accepted him the way he is.
Our conversations were still great and he was lovely. We went on 7/8 dates and he's very affectionate when we spend time together, we had the exclusivity talk and he told me he would like to marry me in the future even if we're from different religions (I'm Christian and he's Muslim). He's very close to his mother and he told her he was dating someone and she said "If you love her, it's fine. Just don't hurt her or yourself."
Besides of that, a lot of things are bothering me in this relationship like the fact that he's still on dating apps but he says he's only mine, I don't know if he's still active but it's weird that he didn't delete it or asked me to delete mine, when we were talking he used to follow a lot of local girls on IG and be active on those apps but these days he stopped but we're barely talking, he leaves me on read without saying Good Night and takes 2/3h to reply when I know he's free.
Our conversations just don't feel the same and I don't see him making any effort to make me happy anymore. He just says that he loves me by text sometimes and that's it. I miss him a lot but he doesn't seem to feel the way I do. He never says "I love you" face to face but he wanted me to say it. He told me many times we would meet daily but then he pretends that he forgot and we just meet once or twice a week. Also he's always late to see me.
Is he losing interest? Is he seeing someone else? I'm so confused but I don't want to suffocate him since we're dating only for 2 months. I really need some advice.

This ended up longer than anticipated, so appreciate everyone’s feedback!
TLDR: A long term relationship with two people that love and support each other, but feels imbalanced and led by one person. Would that person be crazy to leave in pursuit of something “more?”
I’m a long time lurker here and have read so many posts about challenges in long-term relationships, and it seems like the advice falls into two (highly simplified) categories:

1. It is very difficult to find a stable gay relationship, so work on it until it is beyond repair (barring abuse, infidelity, etc. of course).
2. Once you have that “feeling” that it is over, it probably is and staying is only prolonging the inevitable.

About Me: 33M. Born and raised in a large east coast city with a solidly middle class upbringing. I have a large group of friends and a long list of things that I am passionate about (friends, family, work, music, sports, etc.). I would describe myself as an extrovert and am very career and goal-oriented.
About Him: 29M. From a smaller town and raised in a different environment. Well educated, introverted and generally content with life.
We have been together for just over 5 years. We initially connected on several dating apps, and hit it off right away. We are each other’s first serious relationship, and our relationship also led to me coming out after being closeted my entire life.
The first two years were great as we experienced many “firsts” together, and generally settled into a loving relationship that seemed unobtainable for all those years that I was in the closet. Around that two year mark, I started to get that nagging feeling that we were settling down too quickly, and that I never got to experience life as an openly gay, single man (I know, I know…). There was also a major imbalance in our relationship in that my BF does not have a local group of friends or hobbies outside of our relationship. Everything that we did (and continue to do) revolved around my interests and my group of friends. This was also the depth of COVID, and we were spending basically 100% of our time together which led to a general “fatigue” in the relationship. We broke up around this time for these reasons.
Fast forward 6 months, and we both felt the pull to reconnect. I had explored life a single gay man and didn’t love what I saw, so with that experience I recognized that what I had with my BF was good and worth working on. We talked about the issues that led to us breaking up (primarily the imbalance and his dependence on the relationship) and agreed to get back together.
It’s been about two years since then, and while things have generally been good, I feel like I’m falling out of love again and struggle to see the long-term future for our relationship. Day-to-day, our relationship is fine. We live together in a home that I own, and he is a loving and supportive partner. It’s that long term that I struggle with…we really haven’t made any progress on the imbalance. I want to see him grow and find himself outside of the things we do together, but I think he lacks the motivation or desire to get outside of his comfort zone. Our social life still revolves 100% around my friends and interests. This comfort zone also applies to his career, as he works a stable but miserable job that I think is far beneath his talent and abilities. Anytime I bring these things up, he is defensive and accuses me of thinking that he is “less than” because he doesn’t have ambition or make a lot of money. I’m fortunate to have a high-paying career that I love, and wouldn’t care if he made $0 so long as he was happy and fulfilled.
With all of this being said, I just can’t shake that “gut feeling” of this just not being the right long term fit. There’s been no infidelity or massive arguments, just a general descent into feeling unfulfilled in the relationship. I feel like the life that “we” have built together is really just my life that he is along for the ride on.
We’ve been discussing our feelings a lot more lately, but haven’t really to come any resolutions or definitive reasons why we should or should not stay together. I think we should end things, but I also recognize how difficult it is to find a stable, committed relationship. I also see how staying together for that reason alone (fear of not finding someone else) is not good enough and would ultimately lead us back to this same place in the future. Ultimately, I think the sunk cost fallacy and difficulties of separating our lives are what is keeping us together.

"The market is a pendulum that forever swings between unsustainable optimism and unjustified pessimism. The intelligent investor is a realist who sells to optimists and buys from pessimists."

Sir John Templeton

Today, just facts for you. It's a story, but you tell it to yourself.
Busts, Financial Crises, & Market Panics dating from the Middle Ages to present day:

• 1255 - Overexpansion of credit led to banking failures in Italy
• 1294 - Edward I default to the Ricciardi of Lucca during war with France
• 1298 - Seizure of the Gran Tavola of Sienna by Philip IV of France
• 1307 - Liquidation of the Knights Templar by Philip IV
• 1311 - Edward II default to the Frescobaldi of Florence
• 1326 - Bankruptcy of the Scali of Florence and Asti of Sienna
• 1342 - Edward III default to the Florentine banks during the Hundred Years' War
• 1345 - Bankruptcy of the Bardi and Peruzzi; depression, Great crash of the 1340's
• 1380 - Ciompi Revolt in Florence. Crash of the early 1380s
• 1401 - Italian bankers expelled from Aragon in 1401, England in 1403, France in 1410
• 1433 - Fiscal crisis in Florence after wars with Milan and Lucca
• 1464 - Death of Cosimo de Medici: loans called in, wave of bankruptcies in Florence
• 1470 - Edward IV default to the Medici during the Wars of the Roses
• 1478 - Bruges branch of the Medici after the capture of Florence by Charles VIII of France
• 1525 - Siege of Genoa by forces of Spain and the Holy Roman Empire; coup in 1527
• 1557 - Philip II of Spain restructuring of debts inherited by Charles V
• 1566 - Start of the Dutch Revolt against Spain: disruption of Spanish trade
• 1575 - Philip II default: Financial crisis of 1575-79 affected Genoese creditors
• 1596 - Philip II default: Financial crisis of 1596 severely affected Genoese businessmen
• 1607 - Spanish state bankruptcy: failure of Genoese banks
• 1619 - Kipper-und-Wipperzeit: Monetary crisis at the outbreak of the Thirty Years' War
• 1627 - Spanish bankruptcy: collapse of Genoese banks and the Fuggers
• 1637 - End of the Dutch Tulipmania; also, Dutch East India Company shares, canals
• 1646 - French state bankruptcy, eliminated the Italian bankers
• 1652 - Outbreak of the First Anglo-Dutch War: attacks by Britain on Dutch Shipping
• 1666 - Second Anglo-Dutch War: disruption of the Dutch spice fleet
• 1672 - Rampjaar (Disaster Year) in Holland: French/English invasion
• 1696 - English government debt crisis during the Nine Years War against France
• 1705 - English crisis during the War of the Spanish Succession against France
• 1720 - Collapse of the South Sea Bubble in England and Mississippi Bubble in France
• 1761 - English government debt crisis over the Seven Years War against France
• 1769 - Collapse of the Bengal Bubble in East India Company stock
• 1772 - Credit Crisis in London and the American colonies
• 1783 - Economic depression in Britain and America after the Revolutionary War
• 1792 - Boom and bust in the First Bank of the United States after Hamilton's refunding
• 1797 - Land speculation bubble burst. Bank run in england of fear of French invasion
• 1802 - Boom and bust after the Peace Amiens between Britain and France
• 1812 - Outbreak of the War of 1812 between America and Britain
• 1819 - Land bubble burst; bank failures. Tightening by the Second Bank of the US.
• 1825 - Emerging market (Latin America) bubble burst in London
• 1837 - Collapse of bubbles in canals, cotton, and lan; run on banks
• 1847 - Collapse of railway boom in London (following Bank Charter Act)
• 1857 - Global market panic; railway bubble, failure of Ohio Life Co.
• 1866 - Failure of Overend Gurney and Co. in London; banking crisis
• 1869 - Black Friday in New York: collapse of Gould and Fisk gold speculation
• 1873 - Railroad bubble; Jay Cooke failure; end of silver coinage
• 1877 - Great Railroad Strike: Deflation and wage cuts following the Panic of 1873
• 1884 - Tightening by New York City national banks; bank failures in New York
• 1893 - Railroad bubble burst, bank failures, run on gold reserves; Sherman Silver Act
• 1896 - Run on silver reserves; commodity price declines; National Bank of Illinois failure
• 1901 - Cornering of Northern Pacific Railway stock
• 1907 - Bankers' panic: cornering of United Copper Co.; failure of Knickerbocker Trust Co.
• 1910 - Enforcement of Sherman Antitrust Act: break of Standard Oil Co.
• 1913 - Drain of gold reserves to Europe in lead-up to WWI
• 1921 - Depression of 1920-21: demobilization, monetary tightening; severe deflation
• 1929 - Wall Street Crash/Black Tuesday: collapse of 1920s boom
• 1932 - Great Depression through: widespread bank failures
• 1938 - Monetary and fiscal tightening following New Deal: Roosevelt Recession
• 1942 - Response to WWII
• 1948 - Monetary tightening by the Federal Reserve; recession of 1949
• 1953 - Monetary tightening to combat post-Korean War inflation in 1952
• 1957 - Eisenhower Recession: monetary and fiscal tightening to combat inflation
• 1962 - Kennedy Slide/Flash Crash; Cuban Missile Crisis
• 1969 - Nixon Recession: monetary and fiscal tightening to combat inflation and deficit
• 1974 - Oil crisis (OPEC embargo): rising inflation and unemployment; stagflation
• 1979 - Energy crisis (Iranian Revolution): monetary tightening under Paul Volcker
• 1987 - Black Monday: global market crash, collapse of speculative boom
• 1990 - Gulf War: spike in oil price, recession of 1990-1992
• 1994 - Tequila Crisis: Mexico peso devaluation; Federal Reserve rate hikes
• 1998 - Asia crisis (began 1997), Russian default, LTCM failure
• 2001 - Collapse of Dot-com bubble; 9/11 attacks; corporate accounting scandals
• 2008 - Collapse of housing bubble; Global Financial Crisis; Lehaman AIG etc. failures
• 2011 - US debt ceiling crisis and credit rating downgrade; eurozone sovereign debt crisis
• 2015 - End of the Federal Reserve's zero interest rate policy
• 2016 - Brexit
• 2020 - Covid-19 crisis
• 2021 - Ukrainian/Russian War; Inflation crisis; Central Banks monetary tightening; Chinese property crisis

… and yet here we are, living our lavish and privileged lives, with levels of prosperity unmatched by those of our ancestors.
Only this time it's different, right? This time the metrics of the past no longer apply, the booms will boom eternally and the busts will lead us to extinction, right?
Invest, invest, invest.
Know it in your heart and in your mind that crises are unavoidable.
You will lose money every now and then. But in the end, provided:

1. The rights of property and liberty, which have been crystalized in the Magna Carta 800 years ago, and invoked against kings themselves, remain alive as they should.
2. We are not extinct as a species.

... then you will be much richer than today. Just focus on managing risk, diversifying because growth over the long run is unavoidable.
History is inflationary, prosperity over the long run is unavoidable provided there is freedom. Freedom for every individual to own property, express themselves in a craft of their choosing and trade.
Oh and by the way … what is the value of money if any of the above 2 Armageddon scenarios materialize?
Cheers,
Ruben
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https://www.tenacioustribe.com/a-story-of-booms-busts-the-inevitability-or-prosperity

My partner and I live in the PNW but our family is all in Texas. We have family in both San Antonio and Houston (for anyone that doesn’t know, it’s about a 3 hour drive one way between Houston and SA). Our usual travel plans involve a week long stay of us flying into San Antonio to visit my family, then taking my moms car to Houston to visit my partner’s family in Houston then driving back to SA. During a week long trip, that’s roughly 12 hours of flying and minimum 6 hours of driving (driving anywhere in Houston takes forever because it’s BIG). We are pregnant now and I’d like to set a precedence for how our travels will proceed when we have our baby. I personally would like to plan 2 trips home a year, one to Houston and one to San Antonio so we can stay in one place for our visits. I think it’s fair that if we are making these trips across the country to see family, then they can drive 3 hours to see us depending on what city we are in for our visit (if they would like to, of course! It would not be expected). My partner thinks that’s unfair for the family to have to drive to visit us/commingle family time in the same city, and I think it’s unfair to have to fly across the country then drive 6+ hours round trip with a baby just to make it easier for everyone else. I would love to hear feedback from others who have navigated the cross country, 2 city - 2 family shuffle!

ShiftCarbon (SHFT.CN) is a platform that allows clients, large and small, to measure their GHG emissions comprehensively, set reduction goals, and embed carbon offsetting into their business.
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To gain a foothold in this socially responsible sector that also encompasses superior growth potential, SHFT is a viable and direct proxy.
According to the Corporate Credit Institute, a carbon credit is a tradable permit or certificate that provides the holder of the recognition the right to emit one ton of carbon dioxide or an equivalent of another greenhouse gas. The main goal for creating carbon credits is to reduce emissions of carbon dioxide and other greenhouse gases from industrial activities to reduce the effects of global warming.
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On February 23, 2023, ShiftCarbon announced a USD$5 million engagement with Saudi Arabia’s behemoth solutions by stc.
For context, here are its latest numbers:
1 SAR=$3.75 USD
• Revenues for 2022 totalled SAR 8.8 billion (USD$33 billion), an increase of 22.2% compared to SAR 7.2 billion for 2021
• Net profit for 2022 rose to SAR 1.054 billion, up from SAR 833 million, a year-on-year gain of 26.5%
• The company’s strong financial performance can be attributed to the acquisition of “Giza Systems,” which marked an increase in company revenues for Q4 2022
Commenting on the financial results for 2022, Eng. Omer Abdullah Alnomani, CEO of solutions by stc, stated, “Our exceptional financial results for 2022 are a testament to our commitment to business growth and expansion in the Kingdom. We continue to work relentlessly within the framework of our ambitious strategy to maintain our position as a digital transformation leader in the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia and the region.
This deal is big news for ShiftCarbon. Not only does it provide significant revenue, it also puts the Company in line for the future massive ‘Smart Cities’ build of solutions by stc. Again, context. That project is expected to have USD$14 billion spent in 3-4 years. The Green Finance accredited facility is set to run solely on renewable energy and has the highest Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design (LEED) rating for sustainable urban planning.
In August 2022, the company announced its partnership with Saudi Arabian’s publicly-listed technology giant to build and offer innovative solutions to customers across the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia. The two companies have now started working together to deliver a full suite of Smart City infrastructure to one of the world’s most ambitious luxury regenerative tourism destinations that aims to set new standards in sustainable development.
SHFT Wayne Lloyd states, “It is an honour to finally kick off this historical engagement with our partners at solutions by stc. We are grateful to have been selected to participate in such a massive undertaking that aims to set new standards in sustainable development and further strengthen the position of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia on the global tourism map. We are thrilled to have our vision for smart cities embraced by the most valuable telecom brand in the Middle East.”
The critical sentence in the recent PR for potential and current shareholders is, “The first phase of revenue from this project is estimated to be US$5 million with the potential for additional revenue in the form of a long-term supply of goods as the smart city becomes operational.”
While the engagement may be small by solutions by stc numbers, it represents an amount equivalent to CDN$ 6,808,510, more than twice the Company’s Market Cap.
With potentially way more to come and as a proxy for the various technologies, SHFT, unlike competitors, has gone global with a group with potentially bottomless pockets.
Certainly, worth a hard look.

EDIT: excuse the typo in the title I cannot change it
So I have three options (and this for an individual plan), but these are the two I am in between (the third one is a even higher deductible plan, Cigna 3000 HDHP):
A Traditional Cigna plan ($295 per month):
- $500 in network deductible
- $3,000 out of pocket max (I don't even know what that means)
- 10% coinsurance (also don't know what that means)
- $30 copay for PCP and $40 copay for specialists
Cigna 1500 High Deductible Health Plan with HSA ($100 per month):
- $1,500 in-network deductible and $3,000 out-of-network deductible
- $2,000 out of pocket max (in network) and $4,000 out of pocket max (out of network)
- On the information sheet they gave me it just says "10%" for PCP and specialist visits. Does this mean that only 10% is covered? I'm confused.
Current medical situation:
- I have an eating disorder and have a treatment team. So I see a therapist weekly, a dietician bi-weekly, and PCP once every couple months for medical monitoring (including lab work)
- I may (or may not be) seeking more support through an intensive outpatient program (IOP). Depends how I do with this new job.
- Aside from the eating disorder, I'm not on medication or have any other physical health issues. Obviously I don't want to put any suffering into my future predictions, and God forbid I were to have another issue, but I do that a history of random and relatively infrequent psychiatric hospitalizations and ER visits for episodes relating to PTSD/depression.
I am an extremely cheap and frugal person and the $100 plan seems appealing. With the traditional plan, they don't cover any OON providers. But from my understanding the HDHP they do after you meet the OON deductible.
I also am confused about how an HSA works and plays into it. My employer does match, on the infographic they gave me it just says "Employer HSA Funding: $500."
Any guidance on how to math the math or figure out which one is best? Please be kind in the comments, I'm very new to all of this.