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2013.03.03 05:44 Sightedglasses Movie Memes

You know how a lot of movie subs don't let you post memes?
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2016.07.14 02:34 WhitTheDish Bitchy Cats: Made of 'Tude

Cats are made of attitude; don't let it go to waste.
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2017.06.30 14:35 ShaneH7646 MovieDetails

Details in Movies, Movie Details!
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2023.03.22 17:35 friendc137 Silken gemdust / Blue gems ROI

Alright, it's patch day so let me hear it.
How much did you make on your investment in Silken gemdust and blue gems?
I'll go first.
I started buying in when they were at 1.4g. Bought around 500k gemdust then realized that stocks were drying up and I didn't want to spook the market by resetting.
So I switched to buying blue gems. At the start only r2 then r3 when prices got close enough. Here I went all in and scooped them by the millions spread out on a period of 3 weeks. I knew people only propected for diamonds and would throw the other gems on the AH like trash.
I didn't touch the green gems though because that's actual trash 😆. Still doubled in price though.
In the end I had 3 banks full of Blue gems that I offloaded on the AH last Sunday. Took me 3 days to sell and I still have a few bags left. Mostly nozdorite 😅
I bought at every price point and exited at 5g for r2 and 6g for r3. On average I would say I bought in at 2g per gem.
For Silken gemdust I got fearful and exited at 4g though so I probably left 500k gold on the table since they sold out at 5g today.
Oh well, still made x3 on a 3mil investment so can't complain.
I play on EU so don't know what happened on NA.
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2023.03.22 17:35 PitoyaTUX I'm trying to understand what's going on with the non-profit I'm working for, and I need to know how to protect myself or be of help to hold my employer responsible in the event that we get investigated or audited.

I work in Maryland for a nonprofit food pantry/crisis center that provides financial assistance to low-income families and individuals. I am the sole official paid employee. This is a church sponsored organization under an umbrella church/faith-based organization made up of multiple churches all around the world. In my employment group, there are two other employees: the church secretary and the church maintenance lead (the church is our sponsor and we're on the same campus as them). The three of us don't get the same benefits as the other employees of the larger faith-based organization. The maintenance lead and I are part time, so we don't get benefits other than retirement, and the church secretary gets her paycheck via tithe or something weird like that, so her benefits get tied up in that. She finally got sick leave and vacation time recently as she's been working there for almost ten years. It's complicated. My paycheck comes from grants that fund the community centenonprofit I work for. I believe the maintenance lead gets his paycheck from tithe as well, although I've never met him as I don't attend the church.
The issues began when the pandemic hit. I am one of the receptionists and my schedule was changed such that I no longer interface with clients directly. This was done in part because the center was closed due to lockdown and because I'm immunocompromised. I worked from home for a year and a half and took calls from home. However, the phone system broke and all the calls forwarded to my personal cell phone which it was only supposed to do during the hours I worked, not at all times of the day every day of the week we're open. My supervisor - one of the pastors - refused to fix it and wouldn't pay me for the extra hours I was taking calls. Not taking calls wasn't an option as the food pantry was in serious demand (obviously), and my phone was now the only working phone for the center. Found out they were delinquent on the phone bill. I might have in writing (text on my old phone which I am currently trying to charge) that they needed me to take the calls outside of my scheduled hours but that I cannot report more than my 20 hrs. The office phones were fixed last year after they all but forced all of us to come back to the office and I wouldn't let them leave until they fixed it. It was actually starting to affect my mental health.
In between my supervisor and new site manager (unfortunately a family friend of my husband) not reporting when they got COVID (they got several people sick) and them being ableist towards me and my health concerns (telling me to keep myself safe or quit), they cut my hours down to 10 for "budgeting reasons" but explained it in such a way that it was because I needed days to work from home due to my health concerns. I was starting a new treatment and it was at the request of my doctor that I do hybrid remote until my health stabilized. They were given a proper heads up and documentation. I was also hospitalized as a result of one of my conditions. They saw all of this and cut my hours for an unknown budgeting issue and because my health made me "unreliable", despite my job being performed perfectly 100% remote. Again, I don't interface with clients anymore outside of emails and phone calls. My job right now is the man the desk when no one is in the center and listen to the site manager take zoom calls in his office for his other job. Other than turning the lights on/off none of my actual work duties affect the site or need to be done on site.
Why I'm making this post is because after the church secretary returned from my supervisor giving her COVID (he came into her office hacking up a storm and said nothing about having COVID), she asks me if I got my raise yet. Apparently, the overarching organization approved for us three in the group to get the same raise the other employees under the umbrella organization get every four years. It was going to be applied retroactively. I told her I hadn't heard about that. She then asked if I'd gotten my benefits this year yet. I told her I don't get benefits as I'm part time. She then got quiet. Apparently, my supervisor told her I got sick and vacation time. He also told her I was getting a raise. She then got really angry because he told her all of this after it was exposed in a finance meeting that $13,000 was unaccounted for in the community center budget and her expected yearly income was less than what the treasurer projected it to be. Basically, the umbrella organization had the correct numbers but, on the church and community center level, money was being moved around. I told her my hours had been cut and she got livid. She has alleged that it's likely my hours were cut to make a salary for the site manager (the family friend) and one of my other coworkers who is considered a volunteer. I am the only legal employee on the books of the center. The umbrella organization has no idea what is going on and is likely going to investigate/do an audit soon according to the church secretary.
The last straw was when I gave them a heads up that my new treatment was going to be a rough one and I asked if I could take calls from home because I knew we had no in office events or projects that needed me to be there in person (keep in mind at 10hrs I only work two days a week). They told me I could be home, but not work because I wouldn't be there in person to help them with whatever they might need. I am beyond frustrated. My job can not only be done 100% remotely, the even set me up with a program that allows me to access my work computer from my home computer. I have all the tools to assist them from home. They refuse to use them on the basis that I am not physically present. The only part of my job that would need me to be physically there is filing. Because making the three-foot walk from their desk to the filing cabinet needs to be done by me apparently. I believe my manager's exact words were "When you're home, it's like out of sight, out of mind, you know?" They didn't even include me in the conversation about whether or not I could work from home. I sent them an email a week in advance of needing a decision to be made, they didn't respond, but then my supervisor came in and told me they decided I should stay home but not work or get paid. They do this most of the time I bring up concerns in written form. They won't include me in the decision making, then respond verbally.
I have made plans to quit and find employment elsewhere as I'm deeply hurt by this, and this isn't worth the toll it's taken on my mental and physical health. This also isn't getting into the bullying by one of my coworkers (one of the ones that is allegedly getting paid and the one who pushed for me to return to the office. they also asked me a lot of questions about my position and pay rate a few months before my hours were cut). I am in my twenties and they're well into their 60s.
My question is, if I get proof that some shady dealings are going on, do I have a case for wage theft or do I have some sort of case for advocacy at all? I do have in writing (via email) detailing their comments about how my well documented health concerns and conditions are not their problem and that, though I am performing all parts of my job well and without issue, if I cannot keep myself safe from COVID, I should quit. I have a friend who is good with legal things telling them I could file a complaint on the base of disability discrimination. I'm not entirely sure if I can? I don't fully understand the process and haven't had a lot of time to look it up between job applications.
Also, not sure if this is relevant but we do receive and apply for grants on the basis of our nonprofit status from the state, county, and other faith-based organizations. Additionally, if we do get audited or investigated, like it looks like we will be, is there anything I should hold on to or make sure I have as evidence?
PS: I am getting the raise of 1% going forward but also backpay raise of 5% (calculated from July of last year till the beginning of March of this year) which was the raise they used to give every four years. Why they lowered it to 1% I'm not sure, but I'll be getting around $500 in a lump sum check hopefully in the first week of April. Feels like a participation trophy, but at least the raise is a real thing.
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2023.03.22 17:35 SoftDomComplex2 27M [Chat] Looking for a texting buddy, maybe more?

Gonna be honest even though I'm 27 I still feel like I'm still in my early 20s, the fact that I'm this old is pretty surreal to me. I tend to get along with most people though, but I guess I'm looking for that specific chemistry with a person that just allows us to open up to each other and really vibe instead of being stuck in a endless loop of small-talk. And even if we end up not having that chemistry I'd still be down to talk and be a ear for your troubles if you need it.
A bit about me, I sleep at odd/weird hours, currently unemployed but looking for a job which means I have a lot of free time which I like to spend binge watching shows, mostly comedy sitcoms and rewatching old movies. I used to watch a lot of anime but not anymore, I don't really game, I mean I used to but not anymore. These days I'm really into writing and creating something. I workout, though I have trouble staying consistent with it and I like going on long walks as I find it helps me reflect and clear my head. If I'm not doing those things I'm doing mundane stuff like chores or shopping.
What I'm looking for is just basically someone who is open minded, caring, relatively active online, someone who specifically has the time and the energy to put into a new friendship. I like people who text a lot, even about random things or whatever they're doing but that is not a necessity.
If you're looking for something similar or just want to chat then i'd say take a chance and shoot your shot with me and we'll see where this adventure takes us. Please do introduce yourself when you DM me.
Feel free to message me even if this post is old I'd be down to chat
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2023.03.22 17:34 lazergun-pewpewpew Need help with database analysis for segmentation

Hello, i work for a non profit and two times a year we send a letter in the mail to our donators to ask them if they would like to make a donation.
For the last few years we have used the following criterias to determine who send the letter to:
These rules were set in place before in started working there and we would like the review this process. What kind of analysis or how would you go about improving how to determine wich client to send to ?
We have 90k clients profiles total, but a lot of them have not been active for a long time. With our criterias who usualy send around 8k letters, wich brings in around 100k $ for each exercice.
So far i'm thinking of improving the "under 6 month" rule. It removes anyone who made any transaction in the last 6 months, wich includes very small donation or even buying a ticket to one of our event. I'm thinking about maybe setting up a limit based on their last transaction. If it is under (lets say) 20 $, then they still recieve the letter.
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2023.03.22 17:34 LuckCool32 [Landlord US-CA] Previous nightmare tenant wants to pick up package

I have lived at my home with one or two tenants (3 bedrooms total) for the past couple years. After these tenants move out, usually some of their mail is accidentally forwarded here so they text me and ask me to leave it on the porch for them. I don't mind doing this at all, I'm on good terms with all my tenants.
Except the tenant in question. She would forget to pay rent until I reminded her, would eat my food, broke a couple of my things, and was fairly messy. I just chalked this up to her being sort of inconsiderate, we were still friendly and as long as she paid rent I didn't care.
Then she broke the garage door (it was very obviously her fault). I asked her not to use the garage door moving forward and just use the front door. Garage entry is not included in her lease. I explained this to her very politely. She flipped out and sent me long, rambling texts, accusing me of discrimination (despite no other tenant living there at the time), telling me I didn't have respect for myself and others, calling me immature, selfish, etc. and a few other choice words.
My lease allows for early termination so I gave her a 30-day notice, let her scream at me when I gave it to her, and she moved out mid-February.
Now she's texted me telling me she accidentally forwarded a package to the house and wants to come by and pick it up. For any other tenant I wouldn't mind, but obviously I don't get along with this tenant and don't want her on the property. I'm also moving in a week, and renting out the place to new tenants, so that might be a good excuse. But I'm also worried she might come to the property anyway and harass the new tenants. Or should I just let her have her package and hope I'm done with her?
Any thoughts? What would you do? Any help is appreciated - thank you!
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2023.03.22 17:34 Ashamed-Tale Are they my friends?

I have a group of friends who I’ve known for years now. However, I’ve been noticing a shift in our friendship.
First off, I let my group of friends know my birthday plans in a timely manner, made reservations, and everything. Two days before my birthday, one of my friends suggested that I should switch the dates and plans around and another friend agreed with her. The conversation rubbed me the wrong way because I would never do that to someone. If they had a problem with the plans I think they should’ve addressed it when I first told them about the plans. We actually didn’t end up doing one of the activities I had planned because excuses were brought up.
Secondly, my best friend and the girl who sabotaged my birthday plans were alone with my little sister one time (who is halfway through college). They talked to my sister about her career choice and weren’t nice about it and told her she should do x,y, and z instead. My sister feels like they were attacking her and judging her life/career choices.
Lastly, a few days ago, these girls pretty much planned to go to a concert without me knowing. Bought tickets together and everything. I’m guessing my best friend felt kind of bad about it and asked if I wanted to go.
I honestly don’t know what to do or where our friendship stands. Do you guys think I’m overreacting? How would you guys feel if you were me?
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2023.03.22 17:33 eta_carinae_311 Looking for a streaming platform similar to Beachbody but without all the add-ons

Hi all, apologies if this is repeat content, I did a search but I didn't really come up with what I am looking for.
5 years ago I got talked into a Beachbody workout by a friend who was eyeballs deep in their MLM system. While most of it seemed like gimmicky marketing to me (e.g. Shakeology), I really did like the workouts. I ended up subscribing to their on-demand platform and it worked really well for me, until I fell off the fitness wagon. I'd let the auto-subscription renew, always thinking I'd start working out again, but after a couple of years of not using it I decided to cancel it when they upped the price last fall.
Spring forward to now and I am determined to get back into working out, but when I went to renew my subscription they've decided to eliminate the streaming-only option and now it's even more for their "BODi"+all the extra stuff I don't want. I don't have an e-bike, I'm not looking for meditation sessions, I don't need the nutrition plans. I literally just want workout videos I can stream on demand at my house.
I'm curious if anyone else has used them in the past and found another platform that was similar in the variety of workouts and the ease of the streaming? I really liked the HIIT and the programs that mixed up weight lifting with other stuff. Ideally one without a $180 price tag would be great...
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2023.03.22 17:33 mimichu94745 All in 1 Sitting?

This is about the 'endless' hallway ending! Do you have to do it all in one go? I know that when you get past a certain number of rooms you can turn around and either go to the start or one room back, but I'm afraid to go to the start because I don't want to do the 100 rooms I've already done again.
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2023.03.22 17:32 thatmanwithwhat Trying to iron out itinerary, wife's not helping hope y'all can!

SO, quick backround, my wife and I are going to Japan for a 2nd time in May, 1st time we did a lot less nature seeing and everything was a bit faster paced as we went down to Hiroshima almost immediately and then made our way back to Tokyo, within a week. Also we had packed light but this time I only plan on bringing 1 to 2 days of clothes and buying the rest there and near the end get a hardcase for baggage check. By the way this is a very rough draft,and the missus doesn't want anything to do with planning. I feel like this is surprisingly better thought out than beforehand but I appreciate any input. I know a lot of time constraint could be taken care of by starting earlier and I feel like last time I had normally woken up by like 7am everyday even without an alarm so I feel a lot of this should work it's way out just fine. I don't want to miss out seeing more motorcycles,cars and cool things but we also don't have all the time in the world as it be. Or if I should rearrange anything? THANKS!
Day 1 5/13 be at airport by like 630am flight is at 815 , be in LA at 1130 and den head to near air bnb ,get uber to Universal studios and try to be there by 130pm or earlier. FASTPASS
Day 2 5/14 be at airport by 830 minimum flight is at 1025 and then yall flyin bro.
Day 5/15 Monday touchdown tokyo should be there about 230pm get on Shikensen by 330 to kyoto/osaka station air bnb needed in there. Should be about 8pm
Day 4 5/16 Tuesday, if osaka is chosen get to Kobe maritime museum/kawasaki museum around 10am be done about 12 or 1pm, travel to Fushimiinari Shrine, should get there around 2pm walk around for a few hours also go to Toei kyoto Studio park and around 5 or 6pm head to next air bnb probably should be there about 9pm in Suzuka
Day 5 5/17 Wednesday Suzuka circuit about 10 or 11am be done around 3 or so and then get to the beach by like 5pm or parhaps something else? Head back to air bnb by like 8pm
Day 6 5/18 Thursday Go to Hakone in the morning 4 hours so no later than 1230pm Do the sky line bridge(ropeway?) Also hit up hakone yumoto station eva ya and be on our way to tokyo air bnb by 5pm 1:35hr minimum to get there. Should be about 7pm
Day 7 5/19 Friday- get to tokyo tower by 10am be done then head to Skytree be done around 1pm then go visit small worlds tokyo and gundam base; concert experience at 6pm to 9pm or so, is near shibuya
Day 8 5/20 Saturday 10am omishiro rent a car and drive to sti gallery only open from 10am to 5pm weekends then drive to Tsukuba circuit ~1 hour or so drive time there also would like to get there by 1pm return car by 4pm and finish up the night at a karaoke place or fancy restaurant. Play video games somewhere.
Day 9 5/21 be at the airport by noonish!! Get to a no tax place for more souvenirs or things Leaving at 240 should be back in LA in the morning at 830 or so plane leaves at 1130 so plenty of time to lounge around!! Be home at 5pm!
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2023.03.22 17:32 ATobiaMD A further look into: 'Paranormal Activity'

Movie: Paranormal Activity (2007)
Synopsis
Paranormal Activity (2007) is the first of a series of films centered on a young couple, Katie and Micah, who are being haunted by a supernatural presence in their new San Diego home. Katie claims she has been haunted by an evil presence since she was a child. Micah attempts to prove Katie wrong by setting up a camera in their bedroom, and showing her that it is all “in her head.”
As the nights progress, there are more occurrences that become less explainable by just “dreams.” The idea that there is a demon in the house that has long followed Katie becomes more plausible to both Katie and Micah.
Three of Jason Blum’s most famous horror films depict three of the four primary disorders that make up the Dissociative Disorders. Sinister (2012) demonstrates Dissociative Fugue (DSM-IV); Insidious (2010) portrays the features of Dissociative Amnesia; and Paranormal Activity (2007) depicts Dissociative Identity Disorder. The 2007 film depicts the progressive involvement the “demon” plays, wreaking mayhem in their lives.
How it relates to the field of psychiatry
Paranormal Activity serves as an opportunity to teach the Dissociative Disorders, specifically Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). The paranormal activity of demons is viewed as a dissociation that results in identity disruptions, the possession-form phenomena, and the gaps in recall.
One night Katie appears to be in a trance, standing beside the bed staring at Micah for over 2 hours and then leaves the room and ends up outside. The next morning she has no recollection of her leaving the house (Day 15, Katie and Micah’s house):
While this serves as a good example of the amnesia that can be experienced in DID, the additional finding of a distinct personality state/experience of possession makes DID more likely than Dissociative Amnesia:
Later, Micah finds Katie in a catatonic state, sitting in the hallway, gripping a cross so tightly that it bloodies her palm, further describing the catatonia that can be experienced in DID.
In the final scene, when Katie, in another “possessed” state, screams for Micah, he rushes to her rescue…and his demise. Micah's body is violently hurled at the camera, where we see Katie over his body with a sinister grin on her demonic-looking face. She is the “demon.” Micah’s body was discovered on this date, October 11th.
While Paranormal Activity demonstrates PTSD/DID in Katie, its sequel (Paranormal Activity 2, 2010) is a case study of “the same illness in Katie’s sister, Kristi. Following the timeline (flashback), Paranormal Activity 3 (2011) ultimately discloses the etiology of the sister’s PTSD [No Spoilers].
Leya Schwartz, MD, Maggie Yesalavage, DO, Anthony Tobia, MD, Copyright © 2015 Rutgers Robert Wood Johnson Medical School. [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) All rights reserved.
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2023.03.22 17:32 Berfs1 [USA-TX] [H]PayPal, local cash, 2080 Ti 300 [W] 2080 Ti 300A

Hello again swappers, I currently have a 2080 Ti Black edition, however the cooler is swapped with my 2070 Super's cooler (EVGA designed these coolers in such a way no modification was necessary to do the swap), but the same 2080 Ti shroud and fans are still with the 2080 Ti. I also replaced the thermal paste with liquid metal (Conductonaut), and the SMDs are coated with nail polish, so no problems will arise. The reason I want to trade for another 2080 Ti is because this one is a 300 model, and while it can be reflashed, it can only be reflashed to other 300 models. Basically NVIDIA made two 2080 Ti variants, the 300 die does not support factory OC (but can still be manually overclocked by end user), while the 300A die supports factory OC. Now, NVIDIA thought it would be really funny to make the 300 model require 2x 8 pins, but limit it to 250W, or 280W with the extra power limit, however I will be liquid cooling this/a 2080 Ti soon, and I will be able to take advantage of the higher power limit, from 280W to ~375W if I can find a vBIOS that goes that high.
This card has been tuned, and with my near silent fan curve, the optimal clock/voltage is 1740 MHz at 800mV, with temperatures around 65C max with this undervolt. Memory has been overclocked to +500 offset in afterburner, it can do higher, I did do +1000 offset but it was borderline stable in games, so I backed it down to +500. I am not trying to sell this 2080 Ti (unless I get another 2080 Ti), but rather trade it to someone with a 300A 2080 Ti, preferably with an identical PCB layout such as EVGA's XC Ultra, and preferably it be another EVGA card. While I would also accept hydro copper variants, I already bought the waterblock for my GPU so I'd rather not go for the HCs. I am also willing to buy your 2080 Ti in case you don't want to trade!
https://imgur.com/a/nb27si8 Local 78660
Edit: Here is a list of all 2080 Ti's that are compatible with my waterblock: https://www.ekwb.com/configuratowaterblock/3831109815939
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2023.03.22 17:32 ThrowRACEOinLove I fell in love with my coworker. I'm the CEO. (30M / 29F)

I want to start off by saying that this story has more red flags than a Party rally, so if you're into catastrophic decisions, red flags, and a whole host of "oh no, why did you do that...", read on.
Right, how do I preface this wild story of sorts, that even my friends have gotten sick and tired of, but unfortunately I dug myself into a hole that I cannot get out of at this point. Let me explain.
A number of months ago I got appointed to the CEO post of a small-ish company (around 50 employees), owned by a bigger conglomerate. Now, my age (30) will surely raise some eyebrows, and it did in the company, but I've always been an overachiever and I always give 150% for every single thing I do. It was a culmination of all of the work that I've done in the past 6-7 years, also with some public recognition in my industry. This 150% however also includes catastrophic decisions and things you should never do, which you will see later. So when I got offered this position, I was super ecstatic, and thought nothing of but work, achieving the goals of the company and securing a very very lucrative bonus / exit package for myself after the company reaches medium-term (3-5 years) targets. Everything is set, all I need to do is guide everyone to the right path, and I'll be chilling on a beach in Monaco with 3 Ferraris to choose from. Living the dream as one should.
But... you know, it doesn't always go that way. As we are in a much larger office (together with the mother company & sister companies), about a month ago I notice a very very cute girl walking down the pathway in the office to the cafeteria, and to be frank, I had a tunnel vision of sorts. Who's this, I thought, she's very very cute, I wonder who she is. I don't get impressed easily but something, I have no idea what, clicked. It just clicked, I can't explain it. I got my answer a few days later, when I found out she's actually working in my team. (I didn't meet everyone yet by then, and some work from home all the time)
Well, that ain't good. I thought nothing of it down the line back then because hey, I'm the CEO of the smaller company, I can't be doing this. Very cute girl, glad to have her on my team, let's move on, we have a company to build. But you know it doesn't work that way. I had to start working with her as was required by my job & hers. And while keeping it professional at all times is obligatory, working with someone who you're already attracted to, and who turns out to be quite funny in a way you did not experience before, is a recipe for disaster sometimes. So as we started working together, we also started talking more personal things, sharing music, certain preferences, perfume choices, personal traumas, things got a bit problematic for me because I was clearly starting to develop some feelings. Rose (let's call her Rose, she loves flowers) is an odd mixture of someone who's very shy but when the "wall" was down, she is quite a special character.
In between the mixture of guiding the company and handling all of the headaches that come with it, I now have a massive problem - I fell in love with my coworker, and I'm obviously not allowed to as the top dog, and it would 99.9% never work out because of so many multiple reasons. But you don't choose who you fall in love with, so I tried to manage it as well as I could. Except that I couldn't.
Now, I want to mention that I kept it super elegant at all times, never asked her out or anything that would make it unconfortable, no matter how much I wanted. I don't want her to quit her job because her boss is suddenly taking a liking to her.
First catastrophic decision was to tell to a coworker (from the mother company) about this, in good faith (dumb idea), about this, particularly to someone who confessed she loves to gossip around the office. Bad idea, obviously the whole thing was a sieve, and while no rumors (that I know of) are swirling around the office, clearly at least her group of coworkers know. And this is going to be extremely difficult to get rid of, particularly since they (more than 1 of them) peppered me with light "jokes" about me being a CEO. Rubbed the wrong way, the voice of the tone was more than evident, but clearly I now have some animosity around this because I decided to operate in good faith. Red flag, something to learn from.
Second catastrophic decision is more for my own emotional management, as I prefer to engage directly with people often, and to encourage them to advance / promote / develop themselves. Like a real manager would do, or so I hope. This causes me an enormous emotional mangle, because now Rose got very confortable with me (remember, shy and not really talkative), and now she relies on me sometimes for encouragement, help, advice... all of that stuff. Clearly, from a professional standpoint, I will always help her, but I am not going to lie, this is very difficult when you really really like someone. I need her to grow in the role, to start assuming decisions, and she will require a lot of hand-holding from my side. (not exactly ideal, but I'd rather not replace her - oh, and I can't replace her even if I wanted to, because I told her coworker, so that's a case...)
Add kerosene to the fire - she's started dating someone very recently, or so the coworkers said. Rose gave me some light hints about this, but very vague, so easy to interpret.
So Reddit, my question is - how do I deal with the emotional management of this?
I can't ignore her, because she needs me & I need her to do her job. I can't ask her out on a date, for obvious reasons. I can't not see her, because we work in the same office. Forgetting what I feel won't work, 150% for everything, remember.
How do I manage this emotionally? Any advice is appreciated.
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2023.03.22 17:32 chasedbyvvolves My friend is making a pronoun training course and it's freaking me out

I work at a very inclusive library at the college I go to, and despite living in a deeply red state most of my supervisors and coworkers are some flavor of gay and I've made some great friends here. My close friend I met here is very involved in local politics and is super supportive of me and her non-binary sibling which is great, but I'm getting kind of icked out in this situation.
She's putting together a required course about pronoun usage for all the staff to take, and I have a feeling me coming out to her prompted her to make it in the first place. Sounds great, right? Except I'm not out to anyone but her and a few close friends, and my mother who has no idea also works for the college. Being asked my pronouns and having to lie to stay safe or choose to out myself and risk dealing with the fallout when my mother finds out is fucking awful. I hate it so much, being asked at all kicks off the dysphoria real hard especially since I know I don't pass. There's not even any other trans folk (that I know of) that works here.
The training would include putting your pronouns on your work profiles, badges, and the like, and learning how to tell people/ask for pronouns, both of which makes me want to turn my skin inside out. If I'm the only one not doing it, I either look like a transphobe or have to vaguely out myself. I want to tell her how I feel, I've mentioned how myself and a lot of people don't like being asked their pronouns but I don't think I explained well enough how stressful it is to me. How should I bring this up and talk to her about this? Anyone have experience with this situation?
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2023.03.22 17:32 ArmadilloDesperate49 What is wrong with this game? Hardest Smash Bros ever!

Look. I love Smash Bros series. A lot. I played every single one of them on the highest difficulity. Even the 64 version. But this game, no way. Even if I set the bot to the easiest one, they stomp me. I play great at the beggining, very great. But we come close to the end, bam! Game doesn't lets me breathe! It starts to give every single item to the bot. And I'm not just mentioning it. Even on the easiest difficulity, there's no way I can escape from that! I even saw them one - hit kill me. I can't describe you how hard it is. I hit them, they go over 300 and sometimes 400 but they don't die. Like I kill them 2 times, but when we reach to there, to the last one, bot goes insane. Like how I said, I can play 64 hardest difficulity with my eyes closed but I can't even move in this one after the second kill. I don't know is this some kind of a strange glitch or the game really hates me. I tried the timer version too. When we reach to the last 40 secs, game becomes unplayeble. When the timer of my respawn shield goes off, Bot one hits me and I fly to the Mars. There is no way I can play this!
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2023.03.22 17:31 ohmygawdjenny Gearing up to go to Solstheim with Erik and Serana. Need advice

Since I ended up with two followers, I want to tackle something difficult. I've been to Solstheim at level 5 and ran away screaming, with a bleeding Lydia crawling after me. Now at level 28, with a bow damage around 100 and light armor at 200, I think it could be fun. But I want to prepare so it's less of a mess (I like clean fights, sometimes even reload to do it better once I realize some mistake).
Most importantly, are there any quests that auto-dismiss followers? I don't want to lose either of them, and I'd rather avoid those. So far I've started Dragonborn and the missing captain in a fort.
Let me know if I should add anything to this list:
Fire resistance armor for me and Erik Lots of potions/scrolls except fire storms and poisons Swap Dawnbreaker for Bloodthirst Swap fire staff for ice staff Swap fire arrows for ice Fortify health rings/amulets Enchanted ice sword for Serana Ward spells?
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2023.03.22 17:31 Bekqifyre Playing Portal 2 as a Puzzle game skeptic.

I was skeptical about Portal 2 at first. Yes, I know the reputation of this game on this sub as one of the much-loved highly recommended titles. But still…
Puzzles in games are usually a touch-and-go affair after all – because it usually goes one of a few ways: a) It’s too insultingly easy; b) “okay, WTF am I supposed to do anyway? Like, I don’t even…” ; c) brute-forced every option and somehow bungled through and still don’t know what I did right; d) “I think this is the right solution, but the execution bit is stupid hard and… oh FFS, not again!” * cries* ; e) I like the simpler, earlier ones, but now, they’ve done the equivalent of making enemies into bullet-sponges, and you basically need to be a chess master to track every blasted permutation.
Basically, I wasn’t sure I could stomach a full game of nothing but puzzles. Oh well, here goes…
So first thing first – the Portal Gun.
Umm… Wha… What just happened…? I mumbled to myself as my character stepped through my first ever portal. The spatial processing part of my brain just got short-circuited with that one simple act. It’s pretty straightforward actually – you step through orange portal, out you come from the blue portal, and vice versa. Now, you already know this conceptually just from the game art. However, the real feeling is slightly disorientating. Imagine walking through a doorway and finding yourself plunging down vertically from the roof. Or staring through the portal in front of you and realizing you’re looking at a view of the same room from the ceiling. And you’re about to fall through it etc. It’s slightly surreal and slightly magical.
My pea brain finally got comfy with it after a few moments of testing, and then also finally made the slightly embarrassing connection that the elusive girl I was chasing was your own character seen from through the portal. She was chasing her own tail, so to speak. Charming.
Nonetheless, it was time for some fun and fooling around. Since gravity still worked either side of the portal in their respective directions, I thought – ‘Hey, what happens if I put two portals on the ground, so that I would be falling towards the portal from both sides? Does that break the game?’ Answer: you just bounce through the portals repeatedly like the portal is a trampoline, only said trampoline lets you pass through. Had a good laugh at that as the scene kept flipping between space A/space B/A/B/A/B… In a later part, I accidentally set up a portal on the ceiling and the ground directly below it. Yep. Imagine that for a moment. You just fall through innnnnnfinitely…. (you can cut that out any time, so it’s just damn fun, in case you’re worried...)
In short, the Portal gun is a blast. You haven’t seen anything like it in, say, an Arkham Knight with the Riddler puzzles, or a Tomb Raider game. It has great potential, and then they teach you that conservation of momentum still applies when you fall through a portal. Now, imagine what that means when you shoot out the other side. If just never gets old riding gravity horizontally to your next location.
Now, admittedly, I did end up stopping after the first or second hour or so, for quite some time in fact. Probably beat one or two other titles in the interim. Nothing was wrong with the game except a failure to hook me in completely. I was disinterested, shall we say, and preferred to play something else less puzzle-heavy.
Little did I know that the narrative was about to take off. And so coming back, was instantly treated to a major plot point, before being drawn in completely by the game, narrative, puzzles, humor and all.
If you’re still skeptical about puzzle games, just know that most of the problems with puzzles that I listed A to E in the beginning of this review mainly doesn’t exist. There was one puzzle where I accidentally fell backwards into a portal and somehow ‘solved’ a platforming puzzle; there was one other where I simply didn’t see the spot I needed to see until after much banging head against the wall. On the whole, however, the puzzles aren’t hard, but you might need some imagination to get through it. There are a lot of moment where you might be stumped for a good while, figure it out, and then go ‘oooh, that’s clever. And what does that make me if I figured it out?’ Self-congratulatory pat on the back, onto the next. Once you get the hang of it, it’s an entertaining sort of challenge that will leave you eager to see the next puzzle and what happens next.
And then the story. Again, it’s slightly slow in the beginning stretch where you’re simply doing one puzzle after another, before things really pick up steam. Nonetheless, you’ll have two robot/AI presences to accompany you for comedic relief in between puzzles. You’ll either love them or hate them, I think. I’m betting on love. I think they’re both hilarious. Eventually, you’ll want to keep going to see what happens next. A straightforward plot here, but one with a healthy does of humor, sarcasm, funny-stupidity from Wheatly, and the somehow-cutest deadly turrets ever in a game. “I don’t hate you” it declares as it blews up. Awww…
Overall, it deserves the praise. If you’ve never played a puzzle game, or like me, was skeptical about playing a full puzzle game, this is a great game to start.
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2023.03.22 17:31 Verrgasm Clubbing

"Why won't you come with me?" Andrea's voice whined down the phone in the tone she always adopted when she wasn't getting her way. "C'mon… please? Everyone else is busy..."
"I already told you, I'm not going back to another one of your shitty dive clubs. Remember last time when I nearly got my eye gouged out in the moshpit? I had to take a week off work."
"So what if you got your bell rung for the first time, you really want to die without any scars? Besides, do you have any idea how hard it was to get these tickets? I had to pay some random street guy double just to get us in the door."
"Well, what's the big deal about this place, then? Why's it so exclusive?"
"Suck Shaft."
"What?"
"Suck Shaft, they're opening. Headliner's some local hick but everyone's going to see Suck Shaft, it's their first gig in like ten years or something. How in the fuck have you never heard of Suck Shaft?"
"Andrea, can you please stop saying 'Suck Shaft' for a minute… let me think…"
"Look, are you coming or not? We'll be in and out in two hours, Tom, I promise. You'll be no worse off for work tomorrow, might even have something interesting to say around the water cooler, ay?"
"Fine... As long as we're only staying for the opener."
"Great! Pick me up at six."
beep
I pulled up outside Andrea's house to find her sitting impatiently on the doorstep and she eagerly bounded over and hopped inside.
"Are you as excited as I am?!" She asked giddily, looking at me with her make-up-caked face. She presented two little white tickets and passed one over. "This is gonna be a night to remember!"
"Yeah, whatever… Two hours, then I'm going home, so don't fuck around, okay?" I put the car in gear and departed from the pavement. "I mean it, Andrea. I can't mess up with this job right now."
"Jeeeez, you're such a stick in the mud…" She groaned dramatically as her eyes rolled back into her head.
As we drove slowly down the decrepit street which was home to the run-down venue I was immediately shocked at just how busy it really was. A swarm of patrons all waiting to get inside mobbed the sidewalk and spilled over into the street. After a tedious fifteen minutes of creeping around, I eventually managed to squeeze the car into a tiny space two streets over.
It was freezing but I gave Andrea my jacket anyway after catching a few passive aggressive 'brrrrr's' as we walked side-by-side to the club.
"Why didn't you just bring your own coat?"
"Well, I didn't know we'd have to park like a hundred fucking miles away, did I?"
"What if it's cold inside? You consider that one, genius?"
"We won't be cold for very long," She shot me a sly wink as she dug into her back pocket and held up a baggie containing two tiny pills stamped with a smiling alien. "Roll with me?"
I looked into her big green pleading puppy dog eyes and found myself unable to say no. That and it had been a while since I'd gotten my hands on some decent ecstasy. Andrea always got good X.
"I'll take half. Remember I still have to get us both home in one piece after this." I said in a defeated voice, but secretly I was excited for the first time that day.
"Yay!" Andrea hopped up and clicked the heels of her Nikes at me. "This is gonna be great!"
She pulled the bag open and bit half a pill, handing me the other half. Then, without any hesitation, she slammed the other full one down too before flashing her tongue at me the way I imagine they make the patients do at mental hospitals after med time.
"For fuck's sake, Andrea. Really? You said two hours. In two hours' time you're gonna be completely gone, I'll probably have to carry you through the dance floor, prise your fingers off the stage just to get you out the door with me."
"A promise is a promise." She booped my nose condescendingly the way you might a small child. I always hated when she did that, endearing as it was. "When it's over, it's over. I won't hold you back."
"I hope not." I'd gotten the pill down quickly, but that bitter taste still permeated the surface of my tongue and a little at the back of my throat. "I really hope not..."
We rounded the corner and joined the back of the line and found ourselves relieved that it was moving relatively quickly. I stood on my toes and got a decent look at the action up front. The bouncer wasn't even really checking the tickets, just a nod in acknowledgement at whatever random white paper was being presented. This prompted me to check the one in my pocket.
It was riddled with typos. I held it up to Andrea and she looked at me as if I was from Mars.
"What?"
"You paid double for fake tickets?"
"Yeah, so what? They'll get us in, won't they?"
"Jesus, Andrea. I swear, two hours and then we're leaving. Okay? This is gonna be a nightmare to get away from, look how busy this fucking street is, it's all because of these fake ticket scalping fucks..."
The ecstasy had begun to take effect and I couldn't help but feel a little shame for just how hard my half a pill was already kicking my ass. I looked over at Andrea for the first time since we'd joined the queue, of which was quickly packed behind us as we gradually approached the front, boxing us in. She was chewing voraciously at her bottom lip. I put my arm around her shoulder reassuringly and she turned to me with her big wobbly pupils. The vibrant green of her irises almost obscured by them.
"We will get in, right? Won't we?" She asked with a sort of desperation that I understood. I'd had a 'bad' X trip before when my plans got cancelled and I'd taken too much, ended up milling around my apartment hugging pillows and gnawing at my toothbrush. I pictured Andrea disappointedly sitting on her couch while she ferociously stroked her cat with hardstyle blasting through her TV speakers.
"Yeah, I think we'll get in. Don't worry." She pulled me closer to her and we embraced. Usually that took an hour or two but the clear overdose had ramped up the process. "Are you sure you're okay to go in here? You shouldn't have done all that at once."
"Oh, y-yeah" She chattered at me through her clenched teeth. She broke away for a second and yelled into the crowd behind us.
"SUCK SHAFT! WOOO!"
She was met with a rallying cry of about two dozen other people who were also prematurely wasted. With a pleased giggle she took my arm again and snuggled in, which was a relief because it was so damn cold on that sidewalk. We got close to the front and I whispered into Andrea's ear.
"Look, just keep your head down and don't look at the bouncer. If he sees how fucked up you are he won't let us in, okay?"
"Okey-doke…"
"Gimme your ticket."
I took her ticket and approached the big man by the door as Andrea half-hid behind me. No words were exchanged, barely even a look. He grabbed our tickets, and in we went.
"Here's your jacket back." Andrea thrust my knockoff leather jacket towards me and I put it back on, knowing that it'd eventually just become a hindrance in the heat. I followed closely behind as we descended the sickly white painted concrete stairwell, already littered with cigarette butts and empty bottles and vomit possibly from the night before. The music was getting louder as we got closer to the underground set. Thick swathes of bass resonated in the walls and in the floor and the ceiling and I felt myself come alive.
The stairs ended after a few turns and Andrea took my hand and led me into the packed crowd, all moving sinuously to the beat. I felt a jab in my ribs but I didn't care. We were somewhere close to the stage, but I couldn't tell where. My vision flickered and moved with my body as I danced with Andrea, every so often taking an accidental shove from a stranger and giving out a few of my own. That moment, I don't know how long it lasted, but it was the last time I was ever truly happy.
I brushed it off at first, something being shouted that looking back, I know must have been 'fire'. I just didn't want to believe it. Then, when the dancefloor broke its rhythm and people began to push into us towards the exit, I realized what was happening. Andrea looked into my eyes and I could see she knew it too, that rapturous joy snuffed out by terror. When the real world creeps into the fantasies we use to escape, turning them foul forever.
The music was still blaring, but the stage was empty. Smoke trickled out from behind it. Screams began to overtake the bass as people crammed in beside us, all running in the same direction. The lit single door exitway was in near darkness spare a few gaps that weren't full of people squeezing through. It was utter chaos.
All around us the ones who'd fallen over were stepped on in the scramble, I could hear their bones snapping under the weight of frantic footfalls and their pained reactions as they gasped their last breaths before giving in. Several men and women were actively shoving people back, throwing elbows and punches with others retaliating and then succumbing to the trampling themselves. We managed to reach the exit door leading to the stairs, but as I squeezed myself through Andrea's wrist got caught in the doorframe and was shattered by the incoming horde pushing through the cramped doorway three at a time. She screamed, shrieked out, and then was lost. I didn't look back, I was overcome with an unbearable rage. I stood in that doorway and I kicked out hard, knocking at least a dozen people back into the club, which was now entirely ablaze as flames engulfed the stage rendered near invisible by the thick black smoke.
I wasn't giving anything close to a fuck. I jerked my elbows into noses, I yanked back two womem ahead of me and they tumbled backwards down the stairs into the fiery oblivion below. I kicked and I punched and I shoved and I think I even bit a guy at one point, until eventually, I managed to wriggle through the open door and into the night air as sirens screeched down the street towards the scene. I looked back over my shoulder at the carnage as other escapees of the blaze rushed past me to safety. I did too, except I didn't stop running.
I got in my car and I drove home.
Fifty-three people died in that club that night. Seventy were injured, many in ways that'll surely have made their lives a living hell since. Andrea. I'm not sure if Andrea died in the crush or under some fucker's boot or if the smoke got her, or the fire. All I know is that she didn't make it. I just hope it was quick. Oh, fuck, how I hope it was quick... I look back and it's like I can see her lying there by that jammed up door with her wrist all bent backwards with the bone sticking out while she pleads, begs, the other people there to help her. Everyone ignored her. I ignored her.
I don't like to think about it. I can't. So I don't. I moved away. Nobody knows I was there, or what I did. I know I'll never forget it, though. I know that I'll never forgive myself.
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2023.03.22 17:31 BlandHorrorFan If you see a file on your computer name "see.jpeg", do NOT open it and follow these seven rules

Why hello there, I hope you were having a wonderful day before you've laid your eyes on this message. There's been a strange "virus" infecting PCs, it's strange that no one has been talking about this, no news, no discussings online, no nothing.
But relax, I'm here to save your butt from this "virus", I have experimented and I know everything there is to know about this thing. However, my identidy must remain anonumous, I don't want whoever created this "virus" to know my location. Keep safe, alright here goes:
Rule no. 1: Don't even think about opening the file named "see.jpeg". Please, I'm trying to keep you alive here, and you know what they say: "Curiosity killed the cat".
If you have already opened the file or simply want to know what happens when you do, then skip to rule 8.
Rule no. 2: Don't delete the file, at least not yet. If you do delete the file without doing what the next rules are asking for, it will simply just keep appearing on your PC making it slower every time until it either crashes your PC completly or it automaticly opens itself.
If your PC crashes then you are in as much danger as if you opened and saw what was in the file.
2A: If your PC crashes and ir doesn't turn on again then you are screwed. The creator of this "virus" will somehow obtain your IP address, what he does next is unknown, he could either do nothing, kidnap you, burn your house down, it's simply unknown what he can do.
Rule no. 3: Install a VPN, other than the "see.jpg" file, there is something else you need to worry about. You see, the creator is an active user of the Dark Web, He also has many alt accounts. If you aren't protected by some VPN, then the creator can also try to obtain your data and your IP address, but instead of keeping the IP address to himself, he spreads your address in the Dark Web for other hackers to see.
And you know how many fucked up videos or pictures are in that site, but what if you end up in a picture or video in there. God, bless you if that happens to you.
Rule no. 4: After you have installed a VPN an entity that I like to call "Fearless Maker" will start to hunt you. It doesn't matter if you have open the .jpeg file or not, it's bassicly a man who is on the .jpeg file who is presumed to be the creator of this "virus", mixed with all fucked up things, stabbed with knifes, barbed-wire around his neck, eyes missing, tongue torned off, etc...
He will start to hunt you when you activate your VPN, don't let him get too close to you or God knows what he'll do to you, maybe he'll tear your eyes out and leave you bleeding in pain, or maybe he'll tear your tongue and leave it hanging.
Whatever you are feeling, just get this in mind "He isn't real, he is just a mix of your fears and anxiety about this whole situation".
After you manage to calm yourself down shine a light at him, he usually only appears in dark places.
It is unknown how he manages to interact physicly with you, but for now just keep in mind that he isn't real.
Rule no. 5: Lock your door, it doesn't matter where you are, just lock your door. If you hear scratching noises on your door, don't move and remain silent for a few minutes, it's the Fearless Creator but he is much more aggressive, you will only be safe when the scratching stops.
If you don't follow this rule, then a image of your face mangled and thorned apart will appear on your screen. Fear this image, because that's what you will become in one hour, the catch is that you will remain alive the whole time, even after having your face mangled into oblivion, you will be still alive until you either die because of saturation, thirst or old age.
Rule no. 6: After acivating the VPN and dealing with the Fearless Creator and the scratching at the door. I want you to go to this specific site called ".jpegextermination.com", click the download button, boot it up and execute it as an administrator.
It will then remove the "virus'" ability to re-appear for a maximum of 6 years, after this you can delete the file and proceed with your life like nothing happened, the Fearless Creator will stop hunting you down and everything will hopefully get back to normal. I still recommend switching from PCs and changing your password, every now and then.
Rule no. 7: If you have open the "see.jpeg" file, you have doomed your hopes of surviving, once you've opened this abomination of a file there will be a picture, open it and you'll see your head and the heads of other people that open this .jpeg file on spikes.
The picture will then become alive, a mangled representation of the creator of this "virus" will appear and smile at you, before a text appeares on the screen reading:
"Marked until the end, your head is my prize, such a good gift for my hard work on this masterpiece! You will watch as this cycle repeats, your head, limbs and body mangled just like the others only because curiosity bothered you. Lord Saddler has granted me such power and now I shall use it wisely. Sleep well, goodbye."
After reading this your body will start to contort in various ways, mangled, penetrated with barbed-wire, knifes and all kind of sharp, painfull objects. You'll be hanged up on chains, and you will be there forever until the end off time.
There is a small chance that nothing happens and that the file is autommaticly deleted after you've opened it, I wouldn't risk, I watched loved ones have the same fate after openning this file, only I survived because of this incredibly rare chance of survival and I hope nothing of bad happens to you.
Farewell, stranger, keep yourself safe out there.
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2023.03.22 17:31 DakkaDakkaStore Name the most annoying things in wargames

Hey! Hey, we don't talk that much. We need to fix this.
As the title says. Is there anything that is annoying you the most?
For example, it pisses me off to spend 2 hours reading the rules, then 1 hour explaining them to my friends. To then hear "we didn't understand anything, let's start somehow, and then you explain on the spot".
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2023.03.22 17:31 fretlessman71 Need to file Federal for 2013 and 2014

Ok, I don't need to file that far back, I know, I know. But I want to buy a home with someone else, and while I don't need to file for those years in order to get a loan, I don't want to have compromised someone else's finances and credit and all that on the off chance that the IRS decides to check up on those years and come after me for it. Is it likely? No. Let's just say I'm trying to be a good egg and want my standing with the IRS to be above reproach.
I filed '22 through Free Tax USA. And I see they can file prior years, but the farthest they go back is 2015. I could certainly do that kind of thing, but I would want to be able to file my CO state taxes as well. My local United Way has a volunteer program that can help, but they said that I would have to wait until June (after tax season plus they take a month off afterwards).
Any bright ideas on where I could look next?
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2023.03.22 17:31 Gullible-Acadia-6480 my (19f) child’s father (23m) ruined our relationship before the child was even born

so i don’t really know where to start, this will probably be pretty long. i am currently pregnant so i’m pretty emotional lol but i am tryna tell this story as unbiased as i can. so i started dating this guy John i’ve always had a lil crush on. John already had a son who was under a year old when we got together, i helped John as much as i possibly could, i began to love that child as if he was my own. the child’s mother is an old classmate of mine n we used to be kinda friends but she is very dramatic n toxic so ofc we couldn’t be civil if i was w her ex. anyways things were normal for a while, they were coparenting as best as possible. for context, me n John stayed together at his dads trailer n John doesn’t have his own phone (by choice). eventually i found out that i was pregnant, and tbh i wasn’t thrilled because John already has a kid so it wouldn’t rly be as special. a couple weeks later his sons mom let us know that she was very pregnant but she had been hiding it n not going to the hospital so that she could continue abusing drgs while pregnant. she ended up giving birth a couple weeks later n it completely shook up our relationship. i’ll admit i probably didn’t handle it the best way, but i was sad that he had yet another kid that wasn’t mine, now he has a son and a daughter, i cant give him his first son or daughter so whats even special about my kid. i avoided helping him w the baby because i didn’t know how to approach the situation but i continued helping w the older kid like normal, for context these two babies are full blood siblings born less than a year apart. shit was just getting all kindsa weird and confusing and eventually John fought his dad n got us kicked out. so after working all day i had to round us up w both his kids and make our way down to my dads house in the middle of the country in the middle of nowhere. i was taking care of him and his kids at MY family home. eventually the kids went back w their mom while John and i were still staying at my dads tryna figure shit out. one day while John was in town for work, i went up to the hospital n i ran into him at his friends, he was acting completely normal kissing me all over saying “i love you gorgeous” and told me to pick him up when i was done. while i was at the hospital he sent me a big ole paragraph about how my mom and his dad ruined everything and now nothing will work. it seemed like he was tryna end things but he just logged out and didn’t say more. so i just went home n figured well get it figured out. well anyway i woke up to see him all over his sons moms story (lets call her Tiana) basically he left for Tiana without saying anything, while i was pregnant n taking care of him n his kids. i reacted w emotions first so i texted Tiana talking shit bc shes a weirdo but she showed me texts of John saying he “wasn’t feeling it w me anymore” but that i was taking care of him and giving him a place to stay. i know Johns plans, he went back to her bc she’ll spend her whole life waiting around for him, shell let him control her, he can see his kids w her and on top of that he can do drgs with her. (ive never had substance abuse issues but a huge majority of my family does) i knew it was never about getting back together w Tiana, it was out of convenience. John is very self destructive so after the first couple of days he ran away from Tiana too. then both of their kids got sick n he let Tiana sat in the hospital waiting for him bc their baby had to get sent out. it took everyone forever to find John because he was running from his problems. anyway so they got sent outta town w their kids. John took of to the hospital outta town w his dad’s pickup and his dads phone, and for awhile, him and Tiana were posting all over social media acting all lovey dovey like they didnt do each other dirty af. i knew they were doing it to get under my skin it was very obvious. i i know that Tiana is pretty jealous of me, shes a lowlife druggie w two kids, thats how i know John only went w her out of convenience, not because he stopped loving me and started loving her again. their relationship was all kinds of toxic and ugly its not good for either of them or the kids. but what sucks is John has never been mean to me or got annoyed w me, he would literally worship the ground i walked on. we were very much in love but it was pretty obvious to everyone else that John was alot more in love, he admitted to intentionally getting me pregnant. this all came so out of the blue and they publicly disrespected and embarrassed me so bad. we live in small town so now everyone knows my bd running around w another girl while i’m carrying his kid. he completely left me in the cold he never broke up w me or said anything about it. as of right now, i think Tiana and John already broke up lol they deleted all their lovey dovey stuff its only been like 2-3 weeks lmao i already knew that would happen. so now all of us and our families are stuck in this ugly ass situation and no one knows what to do. i just need advice on what to do moving forward. i’ve had a very hard life n i went thru it all alone, so as a result i became very defensive of myself, i do not tolerate disrespect at all. so who i be if i let him get away w it? my plans as of right now are to move to my home state about 1000 miles away w my aunties, but i’m really sad. i don’t wanna go thru all of this alone and i don’t wanna raise my daughter without a dad. John is a good dad to his other kids and he used to be a good boyfriend to me, but my mind cant stop thinking about how he disrespected me and embarrassed me so bad. i still have about 5 months left so things could change, so i just need unbiased advice so i can have some time to think about it. i am torn between whether i should move to another state and raise my kid all by myself and leave her dad out of my life for good, or if i should give it time and let him be a dad after everything he did to us. i know it would cause a lot of heartache for all of us to completely exclude him, but he’s the one digging his own grave so now he can lie in it. on the other hand a part of me want to let him back in because my kid deserves a dad and i don’t deserve to go thru this alone. i don’t know if he deserves another chance, he was aware of what he was doing n he knows i wont tolerate this behavior. i’m pregnant so i’m super emotional so i don’t know if i’m being irrational. these are my only options atm.
TLDR - my unborn child’s father blindsided me w disrespect by just up and leaving without saying anything to get back w his other bm and now i don’t know what to do about our baby
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2023.03.22 17:31 a_jackal Preparing myself to try it once

I felt like I needed to let my feelings out somewhere
I've been in a relationship with my partner for around two years now. We both knew we were somewhere on the ace spectrum, but we didn't know where exactly.
My partner realized with time that he's feeling sexual attraction toward me, and he'd like to have the chance to try it at least once to see if it's something he needs in a relationship. He mentioned it a few times over the relationship, but today he took the decision to make it happen. He asked me that I either give it a shot with him once, let him do it with someone else once (a stranger most likely) or our relationship wasn't going to work. Having a relationship with me means we won't be having sex possibly ever, so he needs to try it to know if it's something he's willing to give up.
Honestly I get it. We're young and we both deserve a chance at a completely fulfilling relationship. I truly love this person and I still hope to spend the rest of my life with him. I feel like there's nobody else in the world that could get me and be as good to me as he is. I spent years hoping to find love and now that I found it, I'm not ready to let it go.
I'm not really sex-repulsed, I just don't have a desire for it at all and I'm a bit scared of how messy or painful it could be (since we're two guys). There's even a chance I might enjoy it. It's probably the option I will be going for, since I don't trust myself to not resent him sleeping with other people. If it turns out he really does like it and needs it in a relationship, then we'll know we gave it a real shot but it wasn't meant to be.
I don't think I'm looking for advice? I'm not sure what I want or need right now. I feel a bit silly for being scared of something people do and enjoy every day. Thanks for hosting this vent/rant/whatever this is.
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